Vicky Sue Davis White, 56, of Lexington, AL passed away May 9, 2022. Vicky was the Assistant Director for the Lauderdale County Detention Center. Vicky is survived by: Mother: Patricia Lee Hughes Davis Father: J.C. Davis Brothers: Gary Davis & Steve Davis (Anita) Nephew: Kyle Davis Uncles...
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Reading through the condolences and one really touched me and gave more insight into VW. I dont think Im allowed to copy and paste the post so Ill just tell you. A mother posted VW was good to her son and took the time to talk to the inmates. She was in court 3 weeks ago with her son and VW came up and hugged her son. Sounds like they were more than criminals to her and she had alot of compassion for them. jmo
I have mixed emotions about this.
If it alleviated the pain of any mother, I can understand that the compassion was helpful. I also am glad for whatever condolences being offered now that bring comfort to Vicky's family.
However, while I worked in a completely different profession, I learned the hard way that there have to be boundaries between the professional and the "clientele."
I'm retired now, but as a new teacher in NYC, I was a young mother and was very empathetic with my students. I taught 13 and 14- year old kids, and my daughter was just a few years younger. I understood that age group, was very compassionate, listened to their tales of woe, and did hug the kids that ran to me for that.
I was told by other teachers that I should NOT hug the kids. At all. Male or female. That people would misinterpret, or a kid would get too attached to me, and so on, but I felt I was giving them what they needed beyond the academic aspect (which is, of course, the actual job).
I withdrew from ever letting a boy hug me (I'm a female) but did at times hug the girls who were having family problems and were in despair. Just to be compassionate and let them know they weren't alone and had an adult who cared. In fact, the parents often told me how much the kids loved me and talked about me at home.
And what happened? Over the years, three different children developed an obsession with me. All girls, all 13 years old. One built a shrine to me, two were writing me love letters, all kept asking me to adopt them, all had dreams about me.
I did finally learn that the other teachers were right. There's a way to show compassion and care without getting too close. I had overstepped the boundaries and what was, to me, totally unforeseen did in fact develop.
That's the prism through which I see Vicky. Obviously I didn't commit any crimes but I realized that the students were idealizing me in a way that was very unhealthy. I wish, too late, that she had withdrawn into a professional demeanor with ALL the prisoners. It may have prevented the blossoming of her relationship with Casey.
Jmo and experience. Life lesson learned.
but... First loud Noise first hit by Marshals, Second loud noise, Second hit by marshals, Third loud nose roll over, Forth is airbags deploying or Casey trying to exit vehicle (I think they edited out the gunshot or the airbags muffled the sound). Thoughts? I would also be interested in hearing the call and videos lined up. Like the dispatcher saying her finder is on the trigger, is that lined p with the officer saying the gun is in her hand and finger on the trigger?
