IMO, I bet grandma always packed a pistol, so she thought nothing of it. And I bet grandma was buying the 'kidnapping' story, because this is HER SON. IMO if grandma had turned on her son, wasn't buying what he was selling, she wouldn't go in front of press and say 'he's fragile' -- instead, she would zip-it! IMO Maybe cuz' grandma was from Fla., she doesn't know son too well right now - you know, doesn't know him well enough to tell if he's lying. Maybe Matthew told that big 'kidnapping' fish tale to the (modsnip) cuz' he's a big liar every which way and meebee sometimes people fell for his lies. (It pretty much goes w/o saying that ipso facto, if you're a big time drug user, and drug producer, etc., you are a constant liar.)
Does anyone have some info' about the '2 big barking dogs' that were outside - - were those his? neighbors?
I also wonder why he phoned police at 0530am - I'd think he'd wait as long as he could and say he just kept sleeping cuz' normally the baby woke him.... Meebee he couldn't sleep and thought he'd look much more suspicious if he didn't phone (modsnip) on the early side.
Do I get this right that outside temp' was 90 degrees and that little baby was in her crib sleeping in that heat? I would think if she woke up ev' 2 hrs., she'd wake up LOUD cuz' she'd feel uncomfortably dehydrated, sweaty....
I wonder what the heck Matthew said to the police that they KNOW he did this ??? The sheriff said in this press conf' that there's already enough to hold Matthew on the murder of the baby & charge him.
I wonder what the heck happened - Matthew seemed to love that baby so much - all I can guess is that he went nutz/psycho on some combo of drugs....
One 'good thing' is Matthew has a conscience - here in MN we are awaiting the Jan 2016 MURDER ONE trial for a dad, Pierre Collins, believed to have murdered his 10 y old son for recently purchased life insurance (total $50K) - all on tape. Threads are here at WSleuth, and they begin from the day dad phoned po po to say his son 'vanished', and IMO it seemed like he was trying to get the (modssnip) to think the child's small school van driver was the likely culprit...
For the most part I agree with you and I think we are on the same side, but you said a few things that "bothered" me so please allow me, with respect, to comment on those. BBM those statements in your post.
1. I think this depends on which drugs we are talking about. In general, in states where marijuana is now legal, I don't think being a pot smoker or producer equates to being a liar because they now have nothing to hide, if you know what I mean. Yes, Matthew Graham is definitely a liar but I think that has less to do with his drug use/production and more to do with his character in general.
2. I don't recall this in the press conference and if this is what they said, it's actually really big. Can someone please post the link again or confirm this information with a written article?
3. I agree with others here. I don't see that he loved Ember at all. I think he was going through the motions of what everyone expected of him but in general viewed Ember and his marriage as burdens to his life. I think the mother was a much more devoted parent.
4. "combo of drugs", I think so far the only thing mentioned and confirmed has been MJ but I wouldn't be surprised if other stuff is involved as well. Speaking of it, didn't LE say that they found the beginning of a MJ extraction setup at his trailer? And is there any way that same setup could/would also be used in the production of meth? Would they be able to determine that if it hadn't yet been used in that manner?
5. You think he has a conscience? If I may ask, what gives you that impression?
I have zero problem with pot. Alcohol is dangerous. More domestic violence, fights, child abuse, vandalism, murder etc., occurs with alcohol then any other drug. In fact, marijuana is not associated with any of those things really.
I also don't think medical marijuana production in the state of California where it is legal is indicative of a character problem either.
But marijuana does come into play in this case because he admitted to passing out while being high on wax, even though he was supposed to be caring for his very medically fragile little baby. A baby who, according to her mother, woke often during the night.
In addition, he posted on his Facebook that he was considering producing wax to earn money. And that tells me a lot about his character and level of responsibility and concern for his child. First of all, while personal medical marijuana growing is legal in California, business production is not. Yet he's posting his intentions publicly, on social media.
In addition, he has a criminal record. I believe it involves drugs but I can't be sure. In any event, being on probation makes the production of marijuana even more risky and problematic. What responsible caring father risk his freedom in that manner?
And looking at his criminal background coupled with how he is currently living - no running water or useable plumbing- we know that he is not a responsible businessman intending to create a well run, and above board business venture. (Which is quite possible with marijuana production, BTW.) looking at his family, it appears that his lifestyle is a great departure from where he came.
All of this tells me that this is an extremely irresponsible, reckless, I'm concerned father, whose own needs take precedence over anyone else's. Including his vulnerable infant.
My children are adults now or I could not even handle things like I see here. This happens every day, all day long, somewhere. I don't think there is one day that goes by without a case similar to this or at least a very small missing child. It's horrible but it is reality! Don't let it make you sick, just take a break. Go watch kitten videos on youtube for an hour .
