GUILTY CA - Terry Smith, 11, autistic, Menifee, 6 July 2013

Discussion in 'Recently Sentenced and Beyond' started by nikb, Jul 7, 2013.

  1. kkdj

    kkdj Well-Known Member

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    Maybe he was having problems. Maybe he was selfish. Sounds lije a 16 year old to me.
    but once we move to murder of a sibling, something is seriously wrong!
    I'm just not buying this whole story. Sonething else more was going on imo
     


  2. kkdj

    kkdj Well-Known Member

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    Have we heard from the mother ...ever?
     
  3. miabellamoure

    miabellamoure Active Member

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    Well...when your child (SB) has apparent issues that have the potential to cause any kind of harm to another person than, it is your first priority as a parent to take care of this child (SB) and get him the help he needs...not go out to play pool and dump your duties with a child (SB) who could potentially harm any of your vulnerable children in his quake.

    This has nothing to do with a parent not having a right to her social/love life...which by the way did not seem to be a problem. <modsnip> :banghead:
     
  4. Ms Suzanne

    Ms Suzanne Well-Known Member

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    He was 11.He is old enough to stay home alone with his brother.Was his older sister there too?As I said before I do not blame his mother.I do not think she ever ever thought her other son would kill her son.Sibling rivalry.But not murder.It probably just escalated over time to the point of murder.I have 7 children from age 28 to age 10 I have raised.They are all very good kids.
     
  5. Amster

    Amster Well-Known Member

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    I have seen nothing to suggest that dad or 2 teachers are misinformed or "don't believe in" ADD, ADHD, autism....
     
  6. kkdj

    kkdj Well-Known Member

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    Mom went out the night before she called him in <modsnip> jmo
     
  7. Bodhi

    Bodhi Well-Known Member

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    Nor have I. I was simply replying to your question asking 'Why is it not believable that he was NOT autistic?" with my experience on parents not recognizing or accepting it. Just saying it's equally possible that a long-distance father who did not have frequent contact with his child (not saying that was his choice) may not have known what was happening with the child's schooling. Particularly if he was not on good terms with the child's mother.

    I posted earlier that the mother of an autistic child in the same area where Terry lived stated on the Find Terry Smith FB page that Terry was in a social skills class. I do not know the source of her information--she did not say her child was in the same school or district as Terry.

    So my opinion is that he may not have been autistic or he may have been. The relevance really is whether his mother said he was to make it seem like Terry wandered off or might be hiding in plain sight or if she was trying to fake an diagnosis as part of a benefit scam as his father alleges.
     
  8. sophiebelle

    sophiebelle New Member

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    I suppose it may take LE a while to sort through all the tales. I'm not sure dad should be doing all that blasting right now. He should get his turn with LE to tell his side, and if he comes off as a raging bull, they may discount him as a very angry man. I know he is, and he's hurt and frustrated too. I guess they have to talk to sister and anybody else that knew the family dynamics.What a sad family.
     
  9. Eileen730

    Eileen730 Former Member

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    And where did his problems begin? We know how it ended!
    He is 16! He is not a parent!
    Maybe what he wanted was to be 16
    Maybe he had to do this ALL THE TIME!
    I cant wait to hear the rest of the story!
     
  10. Eileen730

    Eileen730 Former Member

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    Have we heard from mom at all?
     
  11. Ms Suzanne

    Ms Suzanne Well-Known Member

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    I really don't know where his problems began.As I said it probably escalated with time.He seemed to have problems with everyone.The teenage years are very scary.I know with my kids I saw changes when they were on the internet and their peers at school and the things they learned from school especially.As I said I have children I've raised from age 28 to age 10.Most of them boys.Most of what I learned raising my older children I can now look out for with my younger children now and what to look for and be careful about.
     
  12. Eileen730

    Eileen730 Former Member

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    Why would MOM make LE get a search warrant to search her property for her son?
    I believe the property was searched once already and they had bloodhounds and found nothing so this child had to be placed there later don't you think?
     
  13. kkdj

    kkdj Well-Known Member

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    Ragamuffin New Member

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    I heard John and Ken interview the "intuitive" tonight, and then the follow up with a Riverside County Sheriff's spokesman. It was very interesting. The RCS confirmed that this lady led them to poor Terry's remains. I can't find a link to that confirmation, but I hope this link works for her conversation with the hosts.

    http://media.ccomrcdn.com/media/station_content/616/JK0711135P_1373594438_19089.mp3

    If that doesn't work, KFI website has the link under the John and Ken Show page.
     
  15. RT51

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    To be honest, I've met several children who need a social skills class. They might not be on the spectrums, but due to their home life, have never been taught. I'm not talking about using the right silverware, but just how to communicate with others.
     
  16. Mahouston69

    Mahouston69 Digital Imaging Specialist

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    I have two of five sons on the spectrum. My youngest, 21 yr old is severely autistic, non verbal, and my 22 yr old is high functioning aspergers. I am in just in awe that this woman and her kids, with the "spectrum connection" as i like to call it...led her to this young boy. Truly amazing. I don't know but following this case and eager to find out what on earth happened.
     
  17. mikeysmommom

    mikeysmommom "A grandchild fills a space in your heart that you

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    I see a common link in a lot of the threads here and mostly IMO is it the mothers who put there own needs and wants before they put their childrens needs.It makes me realize just how blessed I was with a mother who put her 3 daughters before herself.It seems a lot of down right selfishness on a mothers part that leads to many needless deaths!
     
  18. writer7

    writer7 New Member

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    But if the brother was known to be violent with him, it's not OK. I love my mom (RIP) with every bone in my body, but I was left alone with a sister who beat me up, and it was hell. That's without it leading to much serious injury and certainly not murder :( It was just awful to not be able to control being beaten every other day. Nobody needs to be beaten often for anything.

    My parents figured all kids fight and we were both involved (they weren't there), etc. Just sibling rivalry. Nope. She was a violent bully, and she took out her aggressions on me because she could. She has a sincere problem with anger/aggression and a matching diagnosis now, so it's not 100% her fault, but that doesn't change the fact of the beatings.

    Eventually I just broke her nose one day and she finally stopped forever because she knew I'd do it again. I think specialized therapy was more in order, but we were 'just kids' and my parents pretty willfully misunderstood the situation. It's not OK.

    PS - love, love my dad now, too. He's had decades of change, thank God.
     
  19. LaborDayRN

    LaborDayRN In a world where you can be anything, be kind

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    I'm so sorry you experienced this. It must have been so scary as a child to know you would be left alone with her. As a mom, it just makes me want to hug you.
     
  20. Newton

    Newton Active Member

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    <modsnip>

    There was something broken in that family. The 16 yo posted about having significant insomnia. He posted about not wanting to have to stay at home. He also posted about being upset over a breakup. Even if the mother did not have access to his fb page, his attitude should have been enough of an indicator that he was not in a good place emotionally. A good parent does not leave the care of one child in the hands of an emotionally unstable second child.

    The father alleges that Terry expressed a desire to return to West Virginia as a result of his older siblings treatment of him. If this is true, I cannot think of a bigger indicator to the mother that she should NOT leave Terry in the brother's care.

    I hope that all parents that hear this story think twice about unloading their responsibilities of young children onto the older siblings. When a person decides to have children, they must be prepared to make sacrifices. If they are too selfish to do that, then they have no business having children.
     

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