That's been on my mind, too, even in the midst of family today and especially now. A bright light was rudely and prematurely extinguished. At her young age, she looked over at her great grandfather and asked how he was doing: "You tired, papa?" I melt every time I see that video.
Interesting website: http://groups.msn.com/CopingwiththePsychopathNarcissistChild
Toward the bottom is this note: "When my son realized the depth of my love for my granddaughter she became the best weapon he would ever have to use against me. I wasn't about to let that happen. Another thing having this child has done is to help validate that I am a good mother, that the way he has turned out is not my fault.
It seems Cindy's bond to Caylee was like this. She was unable to have such a bond with manipulative Casey, but felt validated and vindicated by normal sunshiney sweet (sigh) Caylee. Which in turn led Casey to even darker more hateful vindictive thoughts worthy of a Shakespeare tragedy and Caylee's death.
Given Cindy's need for perfect appearances, she and George seem to have chosen
to hide/cover for Casey's actions all along, very possibly for the better part of 22 years (considering comments on that message board of personalities emerging in some by age TWO!)? If so, they chose
to live an absolute LIE rather than to try to find help and a better way. As others have said above, it was a perfect storm in the making, due to their choices (thinking of Dr. William Glasser here).
Compare their head in the sand approach to the parents on the above message board, who are deeply concerned and who are honestly and humbly (without regard for appearances) seeking information and help.
Hugs to all who grieve.