Last night I caught the article below, they finally named EB a person of interest while Bernice is still here to see it. My heart breaks for her. It's so tragic that her son was taken, his file etc lost, and if that isn't enough heart break, terminal cancer on top of it.
Moms dying wish is to find her son who went missing 30 years ago - Posted 5:46 pm, October 7, 2016, by Macradee Aegerter, Updated at 06:01pm, October 7, 2016
I hope there is a miracle before she passes and she's able to meet Christopher. Praying that her children will be able to find him if the miracle doesn't happen. I feel the DNA databases offer them the most hope because EB most likely won't say what she did with him. She either gave him to someone to raise or sold him as an illegal adoption.
Since late 2012, I've helped Cathy T who is the mother of missing
Aundria Bowman. Aundria Bowman has been missing from her adopted parents home since March 11, 1989. Cathy and I went to a lot of adoption related FB groups and blogs, we learned a huge lesson there that a lot of adoptees did not have the white picket fence with adoptive parents that cherished them. Instead, a lot were abused or despised because the adoptive parent had not had counseling to help them deal with their fertility issues. Each time they looked at the adopted child, they were reminded of their failure to be able to conceive, thus they never bonded with the child. We met one who's adoptive mother passed from a brain aneurysm when he was one, the adoptive father blamed him for her death. There were others that ended up in foster care until they aged out. It's possible Christopher ended up in foster care too. I'm not saying that all adoptions turned out bad, I know adoptees that had loving adoptive parents; it just seems that a large majority of them had a bad experience.
If Christopher is like most kids who were adopted or raised by parents he doesn't resemble, he very well could be curious who his family is and put his DNA in one of the family tree databases. There's a show called
Who Do You Think You Are that he could have seen or the new show by Ancestry called
Long Lost Family.
We recently did our DNA with Ancestry. I watch both of the shows I mentioned, seems like every time I watch TV there is another commercial about doing your DNA with Ancestry. A woman in her 60's matched to my son's DNA (my son is 2 months older then Christopher), she was never told who her father was. When her mother got pregnant, the parents wanted her to give the baby up for adoption, she left, never speaking to them again. Doing DNA with Ancestry, 23 and me and Family Tree has been their best option to find out their heritage and family name. I hope Christopher would want to do it too, so am hoping Bernice gets a match. I'm in the process of finding a DNA adoption angel to help when they're ready. They can then upload to the free databases in case Christopher has done that too. You just never know with how so many adoptees have been taking to Facebook to try to get answers
I'm glad they're taking cards. My dad loved getting cards when he had cancer. I used to hang a ribbon on the hospital wall when he was admitted, he loved seeing all the cards hanging. I bought a card when I posted above, I know what I want to say but am trying to figure out how to write it.
