Thank you for this. I actually have tears in my eyes from your post. I don't have what it takes to go into my history with a mom very much like LS again (it's draining). But at 17, my loyalty was entirely to my mom, my parents, our family. It's crazy, I get that. I can't explain it. It's almost as if a parent like this sets themself up as a sort of god - not to be questioned, but to be obeyed, believed above all else (including plain-as-day facts), and with the sense that your survival and well-being is wrapped up in them... you are not a separate person, you are simply a part of them and they are always right.
Anyway, I hope for her own sake, HH is now cooperating with LE. I'm not at all surprised that she wasn't cooperating early on though. That girl has a lot to overcome internally, and I pray she is getting some kind of help. LE will get much farther with her if they understand her and can act with empathy toward her.