my mother-in-law never liked me ... and she still likes to demonstrate this very clearly to me. Last time, when I asked for her advice (why did I even do this??) she told me, that I had already done so many mistakes with my son, this could never be compansated (I hope I found the correct "term" for this). In her eyes nothing is good enough - In all the years (ten) she really never had any kind words for me. And I'm still alive. My husband defends me as good as possible. But anyway, Chris found many "excuses" why this did happen - in my opinion, none of them were really reasonable. And even if he want's others to believe, that he wasn't "himself" that night/moring, he had plenty of time to think of what he was doing. The only person to blame is still him and this will never change. Within a few hours he destroyed many lifes out of selfish reasons. That's not excusable.