Connie Lawless

Discussion in 'Sandra Cantu' started by arielilane, Apr 19, 2009.

  1. daisy.faithfull

    daisy.faithfull RIP Joey, Summer, Gianni & Joey Jr.

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    From what I understood everyone is under gag order, I don't see why Connie wouldn't be.

    I'm bumping, because I'm confused about that too.
     


  2. simlyme

    simlyme member since 04/2009

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    Im sorry:confused: I dont mean to offend,but, I get the impression this woman CL is confused.
    This is getting rediculous, it almost sounds like shes asking for pity.
    Good out of evil?
    :waitasec:Well, if she claims that her Grand-daughter is innocent,maybe,she murdered Sandra?

    :Justice: For SANDRA
     
  3. Salem

    Salem Former Member

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    I basically agree with you ocean but I admit that I continue to pray that we are right.

    Salem
     
  4. Salem

    Salem Former Member

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    Not offended Simlyme. I do think CL is confused, shocked and probably stunned. It has been a hard time for her. First her husband is accused of child molestation and possibly murdered, then her grand daughter is arrested for those things. That's a lot to have to take in and try to undertand.

    As for good out of evil - this is a principle I hold very close to my heart. Sometimes we don't understand what that good is but I do believe it happens (I need to believe it happens). In another thread, a poster (I think it was SeekingJana, but I could be wrong) was comparing this case to the JBRamsy case. Maybe one of the good things that will happen from Sandra's case is that new light will be shed on JBR's case. I don't know, all I know is that it is very important for ME to believe that Sandra's death is not in vain. Whatever the good is, I have to believe in it. If nothing else, this case may open the eyes of LE everywhere and help them understand that sometimes women are evil too, and if there is no male perp, they should seriously consider that a woman could be the perp.

    Hope that makes some kind of sense :crazy:,

    Salem
     
  5. daisy.faithfull

    daisy.faithfull RIP Joey, Summer, Gianni & Joey Jr.

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    Wonderfully put Salem... I hadn't thought about Sandra helping to bring justice for JonBenet, that's a beautiful thought!
     
  6. oceanblueeyes

    oceanblueeyes Well-Known Member

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    Good afternoon, Salem,

    I am pretty comfortable in my belief that the grandparents are just caught up in this nightmare that MH has placed them in.

    I think if there was something untoward it would have leaked by now. The police certainly don't suspect them. Elderly people sometimes tend to want to see only the goodness in people. I am sure it has been very hard on them to even have to consider that their own granddaughter is capable of such a monstrous crime.

    These people are in their 70s...what a horrible situation they now find themselves in this late in life. I am sure they feel the pressure in the community. It isn't right but many times just because someone is kin to someone who has done something horrific and despicable they too feel that wrath simply because they are unfortunate to be kin.

    I think it is very likely that the elderly Lawless grandparents will begin to fail in health. MH has left them a heavy burden to carry.

    imoo
     
  7. Bobbisangel

    Bobbisangel New Member

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    You are so right. I feel bad for the grandparents too. They love their granddaughter and were trying to help her. They are probably just stunned that she could do something like that to a little child. They were close to Sandra according to the grandmother and that has to add to their pain. The grandfather isn't well and this sure won't help his health. It has to be hard for them living right by Sandra's family just as it has to be hard for Sandra's family living that close to where Melissa lived. I look for someone to move. I hope people aren't shunning the Lawless grandparents. It does happen though. I wonder if Melissa has any idea what she put and is still putting her grandparents through...and does she care...I hope so.
     
  8. Wannabesleuth

    Wannabesleuth Inactive

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    There is something fishy about the church with its practically non-existent congregation.
    It may not have anything to do with Melissa, but something is rotten in Denmark at the Clover Baptist Church.
     
  9. oceanblueeyes

    oceanblueeyes Well-Known Member

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    May I ask why you think that?

    The reason I ask I have seen so many of these small churches just like this one where their membership has dropped to just a few devoted congregants. From what I have read Tracy is more spread out and populated now and has become much larger in recent years. Where the Pastor's church is located it is probably a small rural area and other past members have moved somewhere else in the county and have found another church closer by where they moved. Those who have been a member for decades probably still come, especially the elderly members or those that still live very close to the church.

    It may have never had a large congregation to begin with. Maybe 50 to 70 members that use to show up on Sunday when the Pastor was much younger. Now that he is 77 years old he may be semi-retired now.

    The church is a very simple church with no frills and I am sure by now it is paid for and the upkeep wouldn't really be all that much even for a small congregation of 20 or 25.

    JMO
     
  10. txsvicki

    txsvicki Active Member

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    I can understand why a little elderly woman, raised by a preacher, and married to a preacher would have a hard time realizing that her own grand daughter could have committed such a crime. To have her husband accused of such things would be horrible. I know that anyone, mostly men, can be abusers though, and hope that the pastor is not guilty of anything. I hope that the pastor can vindicate himself if he has been accused my Melissa of anyting. I have a very hard time believing that a pastor of what I consider a Christian church could be a child molestor. A member yes, but a longtime pastor, no.
     
  11. darlin gal

    darlin gal New Member

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    I hope the pastor can be vindicated too. I don't think he had anything to do with Sandra's death. jmo

    One would be naive to believe pastors (even longtime ones) don't molest children though.

    I invite you to stroll through these links. This is just a "fraction" of the articles that have been collected regarding ministers who have sexually abused children.



    147 Baptist Ministers

    251 "Bible" Church Ministers (fundamentalist/evangelical)

    140 Anglican/Episcopalian Ministers

    38 Lutheran Ministers

    46 Methodist Ministers

    19 Presbyterian Ministers

    197 various Church Ministers




    http://stopbaptistpredators.org/alarmingnumbers.html

    [FONT=arial, helvetica, verdana, sans-serif]I want to state that I am of the opinion that most clergy, be they Baptist, Methodist, Protestant, Jewish, Roman Catholic, etc... are good men (women) with good intentions.

    Unfortunately the horror of sexual abuse is that it is a most grievous human sin of which people in all denominations can be guilty.

    [/FONT]
     
  12. oceanblueeyes

    oceanblueeyes Well-Known Member

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    I think all of us are very aware that some people of the cloth can molest children and even adults. We could say that about every profession in this country, imo. However, in this case, I have seen no evidence that Pastor Lawless has abused anyone. Just because some do doesn't mean that they all do.

    I don't understand what he has to be vindicated for?:waitasec: The police surely have never said that Pastor Lawless is an abuser of anyone and he has not been arrested for any crimes.

    imo
     
  13. joga

    joga New Member

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    why would you not think a pastor could be a child molester? i don't mean any disrespect, i'm just curious as to why you think that. i completely disagree because it's been shown time and time again that child molesters come in/from/around all walks of life. churches are definitely (as has been shown many times in the news) not immune. IMO.

    note that i am not saying Pastor Lawless is one, i agree that something would have probably leaked by now if they had anything on him.
     
  14. SeekingJana

    SeekingJana Well-Known Member

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    Hi, Salem,
    Yes, it was me who stated that this case adds quite a bit of pathos and perhaps very belated additional understanding of female adult to female child murders with a psychosexual component to JonBenet's murder.. For some of us almost 13 years ago, JonBenet's brutal murder caused us to gasp when it first hit the nightly news, then the emerging details tore our hearts out, and have changed us forever.
    Some of us believe now and some of us have always believed that JonBenet's mother was instrumental in JonBenet's murder. Others have argued just as passionately that it couldn't be possible due to the damage to the tiny child's genitalia. That a mother wouldn't do that kind of thing.
    I hope so much that one day in my lifetime the world will know who killed JonBenet, even if the time for justice on his earth passed with the death of Patsy Ramsey.

    I understand the confusion and perhaps the anger associated with Sandra's suspected murderer's family comments, because part of it does closely parallel things which were leaked and inappropriate statements made by extended Ramsey family members.
    For example, Patsy's mother, Nedra, stated that JonBenet was molested a " little bit". The precious child was all of 6 years old at the time of her death. There is no " little bit" molested.

    I can only speak for myself. I am a Christian who believes that when any of us on this earth do wrong, or believe another person close to us has committed a crime, we are subject to and are charged with supporting the laws of this land, not to protect or make excuses for the accused criminal in the name of God.
    God didn't have anything to do with Sandra's murder- Satan did.
    God's forgiveness does not negate the justice system, either.

    We had " God's forgiveness" shoved down our throats endlessly with JonBenet's murder, from everyone from the neighbors to the family pastor, to the Ramseys who said on national TV that they forgave the killer. So did John's eldest son, John Andrew.

    On a related note, I think in the evolution of a long unsolved crime, it is healthier for the survivors to reach a state of peace and perhaps forgiveness than to be stuck in anger and bitterness, but not in the early stages when anger and grief and outrage are appropriate... if the murderer is not a beloved family member too.
    I believe Sandra's family has displayed heartbreak and anger with their grief.

    IMO, Connie Lawless may be caught up in some kind of misguided religious dogma of almost instant forgiveness and reconciliation. The best thing the Lawless family could do would be to hire a spokesperson, issue condolances, and never violate the gag order again.
     
  15. txsvicki

    txsvicki Active Member

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    Because my religious affiliations are like his and I've been around Baptists all my life. My great grandfather was a minister and all my Uncles and Brother in Law were/are Deacons and cousin Missionaries. I just believe God would get them or they'd be found out and self destruct before living to be old men. Of course, I have heard of one incestuous child fondler in the church, but only one. It's not impossible to have happen. He only continued on with any good membership in church because his family kept it quiet from even each other for years then he died.
     
  16. simlyme

    simlyme member since 04/2009

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    Could'nt have said it better myself:clap:




    :Justice: For SANDRA
     
  17. joga

    joga New Member

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    WOW...ok, we'll have to agree to disagree then...thanks for answering me back...:)
     

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