Brief philospohical question; what advice can anyone give when a person who claims to be either a family member of a victim or close friend starts giving you hell for talking on line about their loved ones' murder? Do you try to explain to them that you have good intent or do you just go on, or what? I will not get too specifric here for apparent reasons. I am participating in an online discussion on another crime orientated board. The crime was the murder of a child in the late 1960's. Someone who claims they are a close family friend has been shaming me for talking about it. She asks if I have any idea how even knowing people are discussing this is hurting the victim's family. We have had a minor flame war and I have now told her three times that while I have sympathy for the family, it is unfair for her to try to stifle discussion. What seemed to have triggered all this was mention of crime scene evidence that would look to implicate a family member, so you know what I am thinking here.. So far I think I have handled the criticism pretty well. I am sure this person filed a complaint with the mods but my comments are still out there. It was 40 years ago and won't be solved, but there is always hope. Thanks for any input.