I can understand the mother's feelings. I really do. I lost a baby at 20 weeks. My doctor gave me the choice to wait for labor and deliver a dead baby or have surgery to have it removed. He told me that if I had surgery I wouldn't be able to see the baby because of it's condition. It was an agonizing choice but I was devastated and I just wanted it over. I couldn't stand the thought of carrying a dead baby in my womb. I had the surgery and when I woke up the doctor told me it was a little boy and he was surprisingly intact (sorry for the graphic description). I still didn't want to see him. I just couldn't bare to have my last memory of my baby like that. I allowed the hospital to dispose of him, too. I couldn't handle it emotionally and I trusted my doctor, who I have known for years and delivered by other child (and a subsequent child years later) and he knew what I could handle and I let him make the decision. I don't regret it. It was the best I could do at the time. That was 23 years ago and all I have left of my son is an old ultrasound picture, and the memories of him moving in my womb. And I wouldn't want any other memories.