I got the impression from the Mormon Stories interview..that Lori was a lot wilder in her younger days than I had thought. But still so manipulative. She sure pushed Megan around, and they were only one year apart.
My two kids and my sister in law's two kids are all born within a two year period....so our 4 really did grow up like 4 peas in a pod, so to speak. No power plays. But clearly Lori always had the power play.
Her power play to run off with first "baby husband". Daddy's power play to pull her back. But I think every one of her husbands before Chad were non-lds. Charles converted, but still she has a record!!
I kindof think Barry always was the powerr--but Lori learned from a master, and she almost had to keep defying him to show her own power....
just rambling of course, having so much fun with all this Cox family history.
Not it's very interesting.
So, potentially both of the older girls ( Lori and then Stacey before her) had the power, not either of the two sons.
Also, is it unusual that so many of their kids' marriages are not to LDS spouses?
I guess these sound like sweeping generalisations of all those in LDS but I just don't know enough about it nor about the Coxes & so I had assumed because Barry is the big ' scriptorian' as Megan described Barry, that he expected all the kids marry 'within' the church
Steve Cope was LDS, Charles Vallow converted, is that it? ( IDK the faiths of Alex's 1st wife or Adam's nor Summer's spouses)
Anyway, before this catastrophe, I can't imagine the Daybell kids defying or getting away with marrying whoever they wanted on a whim, because of Chad's tight grip.
ETA I am reading the thread 'backwards' so hadn't noticed you've already posted along these lines - that Barry is not typical.