Angelica
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There is a very big difference between "loving a child too much" as WolfmarsGirl put it and not knowing where you end and your child begins. I too am guilty of "loving too much" my youngest child who came into my life in middle age. She is like an only child as my other kids are adults now and all our attention is focused on her. I am considered to be overly concerned about her safety and get razzed quite a bit by my grown kids about my paranoia. I am able to stay home with her whereas I worked full time while raising my older kids and feel that being able to be involved in every aspect of her life has lead to my being somewhat overly attached to her. She tells us she loves us all the time but I see her face light up when her Daddy comes home. I know my mother did everything for us when we were small but I was Daddy's girl and he was the one I wanted to impress because he wasn't home as much. We do tend to take for granted that which we're sure of. It's not unusual for a little girl to express love for her Daddy, in my opinion it's quite normal. What is not normal is a mother's need to control every bit of a child's life, choosing their clothes and telling them what to think. Seeing a child as an extention of yourself is a very unhealthy thing. When that child begins to rebel and want to go their own way it is devastating for the controller. If narcissism is a factor it wouldn't surprise me if a psychotic break were to occur.