First of all, hi everyone! I've been lurking on a daily basis but have been spending my time reading instead of posting. Anyhoo, I've also been reading the Bonita Papers. One of the [many] things that have me going "hmmmmm" is the way JR & PR basically avoided each other. I'm wondering why. To me, this behavior alone blows any IDI or even BDI theories because wouldn't they be united if it were either of these scenarios? If an IDI, wouldn't they be comforting each other? Even if BDI, wouldn't they still be comforting each other (even though guilty of staging an alternate crime in order to shield Burke) and be united to ensure their stories stayed straight? Also, wouldn't it be highly unlikely Burke would have been shipped off to the White's if that were the case (even if an IDI...wouldn't they be afraid of him getting kidnapped as well?). Then there's the R's-didn't-do-it-but-know-who-did theory. Wouldn't they have still been comforting each other and remained united to keep the story straight as well? The above rambling is neither here nor there...just sorting some things out. But their avoidance of each other.......why? Was John avoiding Patsy or was Patsy avoiding John? In one room, you have John nervously pacing around but still able to think, speak and act somewhat coherently and even take care of business like getting the mail, etc. In another room, there's Patsy going into a meltdown and extremely interested in what the police are doing and grieving while watching through splayed fingers. I've tried hard to decipher these things but still can't draw a conclusion. The two things I've come up with are: 1) JR didn't kill JBR (I don't think either of them thought she was still alive when the garrote was placed around her neck.). Therefore, that's why he's able to be somewhat function as the only guilt he carries is staging the crime. His avoidance of Patsy could be that he's totally p.o.'d at her for losing control and killing his daughter and ruining the family holiday plans and putting him in that kind of position. He just doesn't want to be around her because of what she did to him, JBR, and the "good name" of Ramsey. 2) PR didn't kill JBR. JR did. JR doesn't strike me as being a real feeling type of person so that could be why he was so able to function on a semi-normal basis after the murder. He was in survival mode. Patsy went along with covering for him because she's dependent (and maybe fearful of) on him, his money, etc. and perhaps he didn't tell her the truth as to why or how JBR was killed. Perhaps he was the one who suggested staging a molestation to try to cover up evidence of actual ongoing molestation (I'm not a mom but even I have a hard time understanding, if this were the case, why PR would be willing to cover for JR if she knew he had been molesting JBR...I'd want the s.o.b. prosecuted and sentenced to death!). JR could have been avoiding Patsy out of guilt. Patsy's meltdown could have been the real deal. Histrionics and all. Of course, there's always #3....they both played a part in it and were avoiding each other just because they both felt guilt. And I'm sure there's #4, 5, 6, 7, etc. as far as this goes. Sorry for the rambling....just thinking out loud here. I don't know if there's a thread somewhere in the depths of this forum dealing with this but, if so, please direct me to it. If not, I'd like to hear your thoughts on it!