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VICTIM FRIENDLY
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I would very much like to discuss the actions, lack of actions, and behaviors of the adults in this case and the ways in which those things directly relate to or set the parameters into place for Lucas to become "another statistic" as it relates to this case:
Every key player/parent in this case has a lengthy history of really bad parenting; each one has either given their child away, had their children taken by the state, or were only allowed supervised visitation with them.
I think we hear of Dept of Child Services so often in these cases, that it's not only not surprising to hear of their prior involvement, but we sometimes forget how serious the situation had to be in order for that to occur.
The state doesn't get involved because you never signed little Billy and little Lucy up for T-ball or ballet, never took the time to read them a bedtime story even once, let the tv babysit them most of the time, or because you didn't practice their sight word flashcards for school nearly enough. The types of things that separate the extraordinary parents from the not-so-good ones aren't what prompts the state to get involved. The state being involved means you literally could not meet the BARE MINIMUM of parental responsibilities or expectations, which, are almost equal to what animal control would expect of a dog owner with the exception of schooling/an education; keep them fed, clean, housed, safe, healthy/provide medical care. That's it! When you can't meet those requirements for a child, you've failed miserably not only as a parent but as a human.
How many kids do some of these key players have and have all of said kids always been in their care? (Hint: the answer is no)
How many of them have had prior police involvement?
How many have volatile relationships or a history of choosing bad partners?
How many are active in their children's lives? How many work really far away from home a majority of the time or chose to move further away resulting in someone else caring for their children?
How many reported abuse? Was it only extended family members doing this? Why? How many are unable to at least entertain the idea that the allegations of abuse may be directly related to the disappearance of Lucas?
Lucas was clearly, not a priority of any of the adults, in my opinion. He did not grow up in a healthy environment where a child should thrive and flourish, feel loved, accepted and safe.
The adults actions and lack there of are shameful, in my opinion. Sadly, it's not surprising that this innocent, sweet child now has the Wichita Police / FBI / concerned local citizens looking for him.
ETA: Drugs. I forgot to add drug involvement/usage of the adult(s) to the above list. Did I forget anything else?
