Found Deceased KS - Marilane Carter, 36, Overland Park, enroute to Birmingham, 1 Aug, call from Memphis, 2 Aug 2020

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  1. MadTing

    MadTing Well-Known Member

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    Phones going dark with no pings are always huge red flags for me, Most phones these day's when not being used will last a good few day's before the battery dies, If the phone just rings out with no answer that's one thing, but when it just goes dark its a huge red flag, of course a battery can die but most people have in car chargers these day's that would have left the phone fully charged by the end of a long journey, the phone going completely dark makes it much more likley that somebody turned it off.
     


  2. MadTing

    MadTing Well-Known Member

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    Gray made a good point in that she filled up with gas only a few miles from her last phone ping, the fact that she filled up so close to that ping indicates that she planned on going much further.
     
  3. killarney rose

    killarney rose Well-Known Member

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    That, coupled with the fact she was in an unsavory area could mean something nefarious happened, totally unrelated to her mental state.
     
  4. Quill

    Quill Well-Known Member

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    That is a very logical and rational thought considering the crime statistics for the greater Memphis area. I have a friend that was a victim in that area and the whole thing, including the aftermath was a nightmare.
     
  5. MontereyMama

    MontereyMama Well-Known Member

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    Or park (car idling) to make phone calls/do research on this convoluted direction she was trying to discern? That could eat up a lot of time.
     
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  6. Quill

    Quill Well-Known Member

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    This is certainly a case where I think anything is possible, but I'll just throw this out there: I am from the deep south and a mostly Southern Baptist roots family, but we have members of our family who are Catholic and no one thinks they are mentally ill or would put them through mental health counseling for it. My daughters have both dated young men who are Catholic and one may very well end up being my SIL. For many, it's just not as big of a deal as it once was. I do realize that the circumstances of a Baptist preacher's wife wanting to convert is a different situation, but I still have difficulty seeing the angle of the Catholic interest being treated a mental health situation just based on my own personal beliefs and those around me. We are not aware of other possible changes happening in personality that could be coupled with a major shift in religious beliefs that could signal trouble. All in all, its hard for me to believe that a solo trip would be supported by her family if she was experiencing severe symptoms, so this is a very confusing case indeed.
     
  7. nyvictoria

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    I’m several pages behind so if this has been mentioned, feel free to ignore me. Is anyone buying “sleep issues” as a reason for her seeking treatment? If my loved one had sleep issues, I’d never let him or her drive any distance, especially at night. It could lead to a problem with daytime driving too. That said, I think it’s probably a euphemism for other mental health problems. Could her conversion to RC faith be a source of conflict with family? Perhaps they were trying to convince her she was crazy and needed treatment because she converted?

    Is the area between her home and her planned destination being saturated with news coverage? Wouldn’t a hospital or other facility at least contact LE if she was receiving treatment there?

    If it’s true that the phone number on the fliers belongs to a BIL, that sets off my hinky meter. There are a lot of unanswered questions here. It would really help if a relative would speak to the media to clarify all the conflicting information.
     
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  8. Ozarka

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    Do we know the flight details? It is quite possible that she had this planned for quite some time and used the birth of the baby as her “getaway excuse.” She could have planned to meet someone and had to eat up some time since she drove which might explain the missing hours. I know that if I were contemplating leaving my life and kids I would definitely be having sleep issues. This may sound far fetched but I would much rather this be the case than foul play.

    MOO
     
  9. Rosiebones

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    The pastor may have had a Bible study group or some other evening church obligation that took him out for 2 or 3 hours each Thursday night.
    OR due to Covid restrictions they may have met in Zoom meetings and she never had to leave the house.
    But I wonder how she went through the rite of of reception that Sunday without anyone knowing and also rites like that require sponsors, who were hers?
    MOO MOO MOO
     
  10. diggndeeperstill

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    In the presser the detective said they had just bought the ticket on Saturday afternoon. I don’t think it was planned that long.


     
  11. Rosiebones

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    I wonder if she bought it without his knowledge and when he found out, perhaps while she was napping, she was so upset, she just up and left. This "mental illness" mostly has come from people who would have reasons to cast her in that light. She seems to have had NO ONE in her immediate life who seems to have seen her circumstances through her eyes and who had her back.
     
  12. Kensie

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    I still think Marilane left on her own. Not sure why. Maybe the missing hours were spent at her ex-fiance's grave. Millington is not far from Memphis - a hop and a skip. Maybe she is too embarrassed to re-surface. I know I ran away from home for a weekend to recoup - but I did let people know. I guess I want to believe that she left on her own because that is the best outcome for this young lady.
     
  13. Kensie

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    If Marliane was absolutely adamant that she drive to Birmingham instead of taking the flight, really no one can really stop her. She is an adult.
     
  14. dillysmom11

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    Okay, I’ve caught up and I’ll throw in my 2c. My family and I just drove from WA through 13 states to AL. We stayed in Collierville outside of Memphis for a day, and this is where I saw the flier for Marilane and decided to check WS.

    I am of the thought that Marilane and her hubby had an argument that night. If she was already unstable, I can see her just leaving. By all accounts she is a loving mother, I can’t imagine her leaving her 3 babies unless she is unstable.

    Unfortunately, I think she was likely in an accident or car jacked outside of Memphis. When I was looking for hotels for my own family, I purposefully avoided some of the areas that she went through.

    Praying this beautiful young mother is found soon.
     
  15. dillysmom11

    dillysmom11 Well-Known Member

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    Double post.
     
  16. Help-find

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    I’m having trouble linking the article but back in August of 2018 a mom who drove her car into the Mississippi River from the Big River Crossing area. Thankfully, they have no evidence that MC’s vehicle did enter the water however I thought it was important to note.

    I apologize that I’m having trouble with linking the article I read. If you search “Aisha Fair Big River Crossing” several articles will come up.
     
  17. meanmaryjean

    meanmaryjean Verified RN (Pediatrics Specialty)

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    Respectfully, you don't have to be 'unstable' to make a decision to leave. Just because you or I would not make such a decision does not mean that someone who DOES decide to leave is by default unstable.
     
  18. Bridger

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    Surprised that Marilane’s conversion to Catholicism is being discussed only in terms of her husband’s job. SHE is a graduate of Samford University’s divinity school (I think it’s a master’s degree). To me, this conversion clearly evidences a crisis in her spiritual life. I think this definitely puts mental health issues—either as a cause or effect of the spiritual crisis—into play.
     
  19. diggndeeperstill

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    Agree.. I’m just finishing a deep dive into the Priest she follows on YouTube. What’s interesting to me is that there seems to be no reason to follow him. Not many followers, not local, not connects in any way I can find. EXCEPT... when you listen to his uploads on YouTube. I’ve just listened to them all. You will see he realized his calling to Priesthood later in life and AFTER a spiritual crisis questioning his purpose and salvation. He reached out to the Benedictine Monks and others and settled there. This lends more credence to the idea of Marilane being in a convent or monastery surrendering to her calling, to me anyway.

    Maybe the stops along the way were to choose one, or sentimental spots?

    I’m hoping for this as it would mean she’s alive.
    Otherwise my fear is an unfounded car in a body of water or ditch.

    Linking her YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/user/trc32483
     
  20. dillysmom11

    dillysmom11 Well-Known Member

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    I disagree. Statistically speaking, something unsettling (mental illness, whatever) would have to occur for a doting mother to just up and walk out.
     
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