Long Island School Cancels Prom

[MrsMush99]

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Long Island School Cancels Prom, Doesn't Want to Sponsor 'an Orgy'

UNIONDALE, N.Y. — Brother Kenneth M. Hoagland (search) had heard all the stories about prom-night debauchery at his Long Island high school: Students putting down $10,000 to rent a party house in the Hamptons. Pre-prom cocktail parties followed by a trip to the dance in a liquor-loaded limo. Fathers chartering a boat for their children's late-night "booze cruise."

Enough was enough, Hoagland said. So the principal of Kellenberg Memorial High School canceled the spring prom (search) in a 2,000-word letter to parents this fall.

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[PrayersForMaura]

thanks for posting that. What a unique stance. I have to say I am supportive of what the Brother did. Wow, a post party at the Hamptons? When I went to prom, I did my own hair, had a rather bland dress and a so-so time. None of this stuff that they're talking about. Maybe I missed out and cheated myself? Don't know, but $1,000 for prom activities seems like way too much $$$ and a burden for parents and students alike.

 

[JBean]

Gutsy guy! . These parents really need to rethink some of their values IMO.

 

[csds703]

I wish my school would cancel the prom. Last year my daughter was invited. Tickets were $90.00 per person add on the cost of her dress, his tuxedo, her hair, her nails, the limo, flowers. Most kids in my area rent hotel rooms in the hamptons or Manhattan or the Jersey shore for the weekend. I did not allow my daughter to do that, but she was only a sophomore at the time. I am dreading the battle I will face when she is a senior. Unfortunately, I am in the minority in my views. I think that this is a ridiculous expense, not to mention I don't agree with a bunch of kids sleeping together with no adults to supervise. It's a recipe for disaster. Don't even get me started on the idiot parents who provide alcoholic pre prom cocktail parties.

 

[JBean]

I wish my school would cancel the prom. Last year my daughter was invited. Tickets were $90.00 per person add on the cost of her dress, his tuxedo, her hair, her nails, the limo, flowers. Most kids in my area rent hotel rooms in the hamptons or Manhattan or the Jersey shore for the weekend. I did not allow my daughter to do that, but she was only a sophomore at the time. I am dreading the battle I will face when she is a senior. Unfortunately, I am in the minority in my views. I think that this is a ridiculous expense, not to mention I don't agree with a bunch of kids sleeping together with no adults to supervise. It's a recipe for disaster. Don't even get me started on the idiot parents who provide alcoholic pre prom cocktail parties.

I can relate to the expense. One year I had 3 going to the same prom $$$$$$$
The kids around here do not get hotel rooms! I would never agree to that. Are you saying that the majority of parents support and pay for getting hotel rooms?! That's crazy!
We have picture parties before prom, so all the parents can come and take pictures. But we don't serve alcohol!

 

[sleuthin4fun]

Good for him. I just chaparoned our highschools homecoming dance. In the town I live in everything is done big. Homecoming here is like prom was when I was in school. I was shocked at the way some of the girls and how they were dressed. I also could not believe the way they danced. I can promise you if we had a few dads standing around with shotguns the boys would not dare dance with the girls the way they were.

 

[csds703]

I can relate to the expense. One year I had 3 going to the same prom $$$$$$$
The kids around here do not get hotel rooms! I would never agree to that. Are you saying that the majority of parents support and pay for getting hotel rooms?! That's crazy!
We have picture parties before prom, so all the parents can come and take pictures. But we don't serve alcohol!

The parents have to sign releases saying they will be responsible for any damages. The whole situation makes me sick. The kids pack up all their suitcases and booze and drive their cars to the hotel early in the morning. They come back and get ready for prom etc then the limo takes them out there later. During prom they have to be straight or they will be kicked out and the limos will not serve alcohol or allow it. Too much liabilty for them. Once they get to their weekend destination, who knows what goes on. When I have discussed it with other parents they think I am being over protective.
Maybe they should read this site!

 

[JBean]

The parents have to sign releases saying they will be responsible for any damages. The whole situation makes me sick. The kids pack up all their suitcases and booze and drive their cars to the hotel early in the morning. They come back and get ready for prom etc then the limo takes them out there later. During prom they have to be straight or they will be kicked out and the limos will not serve alcohol or allow it. Too much liabilty for them. Once they get to their weekend destination, who knows what goes on. When I have discussed it with other parents they think I am being over protective.
Maybe they should read this site!

WOW! I thought that I lived in a permissive area. Overprotetctive? LOL! Try common sensical. After re reading your post, it really makes me sad that the parents condone this behavior. It's just unnatural for parents to support this behavior.They just aren't "parenting" Do they actually purchase the liquor for the kids? I turned one of our local parents in to the authorities for that.

 

[JBean]

Fran lives in my school district. Fran, did your kids get hotel rooms??

 

[lilpony]

That is ridiculous, that parents would provide alcohol, to kids under 21. I have never done that. I don't get it. These parents can be held responsible for anything that happens to these children. Some of these parents want so bad to be known as the COOL parents, that they even party will them. STUPID

 

[Maral]

When one of my sons was a freshman in high school, some of the parents got a couple of adjoining rooms at a hotel so the kids could party, unchaperoned, on New Year's Eve. They also bought the beer for them. Their reasoning was that it would be safer to know where they were when they were drinking. When some of them found out my son wasn't allowed to go, they actually called me and told me I had to let him go as all of his friends would be there and he'd be mad at me. My thoughts were that if he got mad at me, so what, he'd get over it. These kids were just 14 and 15 years old!
That night a lot of these parents were at the same party that my husband and I were at. The kids got busted and one by one, they got phone calls from the police to come pick up their kids. Someone told me I'd probably get the next call. I was able to smuggly say no, I wouldn't because my son was at home.

 

[poco]

What's a prom?????

 

[PrayersForMaura]

When one of my sons was a freshman in high school, some of the parents got a couple of adjoining rooms at a hotel so the kids could party, unchaperoned, on New Year's Eve. They also bought the beer for them. Their reasoning was that it would be safer to know where they were when they were drinking. When some of them found out my son wasn't allowed to go, they actually called me and told me I had to let him go as all of his friends would be there and he'd be mad at me. My thoughts were that if he got mad at me, so what, he'd get over it. These kids were just 14 and 15 years old!
That night a lot of these parents were at the same party that my husband and I were at. The kids got busted and one by one, they got phone calls from the police to come pick up their kids. Someone told me I'd probably get the next call. I was able to smuggly say no, I wouldn't because my son was at home.

Good for you!! :clap:
I am so glad that I never got into that trouble so that my mmother had a little less to worry about!! Lord knows she had enough to worry about in life without any additional worries!!
Sounds like you and your husband did a mighty fine job.
Parents don't need to give into the peer pressure of the adult kind!

 

[PrayersForMaura]

What's a prom?????

lmao ... poco, that cat is cracking me up.

 

[JBean]

When one of my sons was a freshman in high school, some of the parents got a couple of adjoining rooms at a hotel so the kids could party, unchaperoned, on New Year's Eve. They also bought the beer for them. Their reasoning was that it would be safer to know where they were when they were drinking. When some of them found out my son wasn't allowed to go, they actually called me and told me I had to let him go as all of his friends would be there and he'd be mad at me. My thoughts were that if he got mad at me, so what, he'd get over it. These kids were just 14 and 15 years old!
That night a lot of these parents were at the same party that my husband and I were at. The kids got busted and one by one, they got phone calls from the police to come pick up their kids. Someone told me I'd probably get the next call. I was able to smuggly say no, I wouldn't because my son was at home.

That just makes me nuts.
I was in a similar situation with a parent supplying alcohol to a bunch of minors. I called the cops and turned the parents in. Criminal IMO.

 

[lynie]

Good for Brother...someone just has to put a foot down to get things back to reality....

 

[Jeana (DP)]

I heard that the parents were going to find another venue and have the prom, just not school sponsored. If these kids have the means, they're going to be drinking somewhere - and probably do every weekend.

My kids won't be spending the night in any hotel during their school-years as long as there is a breath in my body.

 

[BarnGoddess]

It was many moons ago for my prom, but we had our prom in the Fountainbleu Hotel on Miami Beach. My dress was from a consignment shop and we had a banquet and dance. After prom we went to a girlfriends house and the boys went to one of the guy's house. The next day we went to Ft. Lauderdale and rented bikes. I think that was the worst case of sunburn I ever had.

Now here in this small town, it's entirely different. The High Schools have a "Grand March" and the entire town shows up for the event. There's no alcohol served anywhere. The after prom party is sponsored by the junior class and they raise money all year for it. Local businesses contribute prizes for the party. They usually have a "casino night" and that's what the prizes are for. Again, no alcohol and the party is supervised and organized by parents. I'm sure some kids go somewhere and drink, but it's not the rule but exceptions. The next week, the prom pictures of each couple is published in the paper.

 

[lisag]

My kids won't be spending the night in any hotel during their school-years as long as there is a breath in my body.

I'm with ya there !!!