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GUILTY MN - Brian & Charity Miller for child abuse, Dexter, 2011

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  1. peeples

    peeples New Member

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    http://www.kare11.com/news/article/...ple-accused-of-chaining-kids-withholding-food

    Arrested were the boy's father, 33-year-old Brian Miller and his 26-year-old wife Charity Miller, a nurse who told investigators she was working at a senior facility in Rochester.

    The boy told the investigator the chain "gets real tight" and hurts a lot. His 8-year-old brother said he hears his brother crying every night. He told investigators he too was chained in his bedroom at a previous home until he learned to stop getting up to look for food.

    The investigator found the boy's mattress leaning against a wall. He'd been sleeping on the board at the bottom of the crib. His mother told the investigator she removed the mattress because the five-year-old picked at the mattress cover and ripped it.

    The Millers are now each charged with seven counts of child abuse, child neglect, malicious punishment of a child and false imprisonment. Amazi said the gross misdemeanors could be upgraded to felonies after physical examinations of the children are completed.
     
  2. Missizzy

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    These stories rip my heart out as I know them far too well. Food is the first instrument of torture....always is. Children who are traumatized, who are adopted or in foster care, or who have certain special needs can require the most specialized care. Care that would drive typical parents around the bend. I am in NO way defending these monstrous acts nor blaming the victim but I understand how things snowball. Something that starts out as what many would see as a misbehavior can turn into a nightmare as the push and pull of parent-child dynamics come into play.

    But why...oh why, don't people ask for help when things start going downhill? The mother is a nurse. She should know that help (albeit sometimes limited) is available. If nothing else, there are support groups for families who parent challenging kids. Children with eating disorders and their parents must have access to appropriate help.

    And yes, I fully and wholeheartedly agree that some people are just monsters. I simply feel that not many seem to start out wanting to abuse to this degree. It's a slippery slope but the adults are always the ones holding the reins.

    The sad thing is that, even placed in an experienced foster home, these children will need to be forever monitored as far as eating issues go. We have a number of children who came to us in toddlerhood who never outgrew their eating disorders. Hoarding and gorging is one of the most dangerous behaviors for children as it almost guarantees that the actions will elicit some form of abuse. It's a horrid cycle. But there are humane and highly creative ways to control the problem. My heart goes out to these boys.
     
  3. MorenoI

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    The sad thing is that, even placed in an experienced foster home, these children will need to be forever monitored as far as eating issues go. We have a number of children who came to us in toddlerhood who never outgrew their eating disorders. Hoarding and gorging is one of the most dangerous behaviors for children as it almost guarantees that the actions will elicit some form of abuse. It's a horrid cycle. But there are humane and highly creative ways to control the problem. My heart goes out to these boys.

    Missizzy, I never thought this would be such an issue. But, the way you have explained seems to make alot of sense.

    This story breaks my heart! To deny a child of the basic needs is just so wrong and cruel. Meanwhile these two "parents" look healthy and well fed to me!
     
  4. Missizzy

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    MorenoI--I write about this subject quite a bit as it's one I struggled with several of our children and one which I helped a lot of specialized adoptive homes with. It's an extremely complex issue and probably one of the primary reasons that children are abused or murdered as food is central--it's a hot button.

    Most people don't realize that these children (and I'm speaking generally as I don't know the facts of this case) don't just need food. You could take them into your home tomorrow and set lovely plates of food in front of them. That wouldn't be enough. It's like there's a hole in their little hearts that cannot be filled.

    As they push and sneak and steal and hide and gorge more and more food, parents get frustrated and try everything to stop it. Then it becomes a nasty power struggle and both the parents and the children need help to step outside the dynamic. It's just very simply not about food. It's about control and power and love and healthy bonding.

    I've had children sneak into a pantry in the middle of the night and eat 2 dozen cupcakes that were prepared for a class party, grab an entire birthday cake off a table while the family was taking photos and hide in the closet to eat the entire thing. We've had bags of fresh bagels sneaked out of the pantry and hidden in the toilet tank. And every class that some of them were ever in had to keep all food locked up. We even had a son steal a teacher's Rolaids one time. Another asked to go to the restroom at school and was found cleaning out the teachers' lounge fridge. This behavior bothers and sometimes infuriates not only parents but teachers and friends. You can't take the children to the grocery store as they steal. They can't go to Sunday School or camp without elaborate planning. No overnights. We've even had instances of our children sneaking into neighbors houses to take food. As you can imagine, it's tremendously humiliating for a parent who is feeding their child ample amounts of food.

    None of our children were hungry. Not in the least. They just could not control their urge to take and eat something that gave them instant pleasure as they'd gone without pleasure at some point in their life. We tried everything. We gave certain children little lock boxes filled with cases of peanut butter crackers or boxes of raisins. We'd find the entire box empty the next morning and learn that they'd vomited all night. They simply could not control their urges. It's tragic.

    My point is that when things like this develop, parents must seek help as this is a confusing and challenging problem. If you'd like to read more, there are lots of helpful articles available on the web. Just look up eating disorders and traumatized children. A lot comes up under children adopted at older ages and children adopted internationally. Adoption is not the only trigger but it's a common one. Children in their families of origin can develop this problem. It happens when the parent has not been emotionally available for the child--usually during the pre-verbal years. We have many many threads on sad cases like this.
     
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    July 2011:

    http://www.albertleatribune.com/2011/07/chainers-sentenced-to-one-year-in-jail-2/

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    The actual chain
     
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    June 2011:


    http://www.albertleatribune.com/2011/06/testimony-heard-in-child-chaining-court-trial/
     
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    May 2011:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2011/05/child-chaining-parents-plead-guilty/
     
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    May 2011:


    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2011/05/visitation-denied-for-parents-who-chained-son/
     
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    May 2011:


    http://www.austindailyherald.com/20...d-know-where-my-son-was-and-that-he-was-safe/
     
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    July 2011:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2011/07/child-chainers-keep-parental-rights/
     
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    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2011/07/child-chainers-keep-parental-rights/
     
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    July 2011:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2011/07/update-what-happens-to-millers-sons-now/
     
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    August 2011:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2011/08/no-visitation-for-chaining-parents/
     
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    October 2011:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2011/10/child-chainers-could-lose-parental-rights/
     
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    December 2011:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2011/12/2nd-petition-filed-to-terminate-chainers’-parental-rights/
     
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    February 2012:


    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2012/02/child-chainers-fight-for-parental-rights326512/
     
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    March 2012:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2012/03/child-chainers-lose-parental-rights/
     
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    March 2012:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2012/03/child-restraint-bill-moves-on-in-house/

    July 2012:

    http://www.austindailyherald.com/2012/07/new-child-abuse-laws-take-hold-this-week/


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    Charity and Brian Miller.
     

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