Mainly for the welfare checks. Going to work (and school) is very complicated and time consuming, I would think a nine month pregnancy followed by childbirth would be complicated and exhausting also. But these people we have been reading and hearing about lately don't seem to think the same way. They don't seem to mind being constantly pregnant and having numerous children. They just don't seem to want to look after their children after they have given birth to them. JMO.
I married young at 18 in 1984 after I graduated because I was stoopid. The marriage was real bad because he was abusive after the wedding, not before. I thought I would do the right thing and have a baby, so I had Cole in 1986.
What I should have done was go to medical school but that didn't happen and I beat myself up everyday for my complacency and thinking I can be taken care of for the rest of my life by a man who adores me/insert reality check/life is not a fairy tale but I didn't have the best role model with my mum either and she abandoned me at 14, moved out of country/insert drugs at 13.
Things got so bad I knew I had to leave or he would shoot me in the head with my own gun, and Cole who was 3 at the time was shielded by me and did not see the abuse which mostly occurred in the bedroom.
I started school, a 2 year associate program at the local college and after a year I left him and gave him everything because I wanted nothing we had together and moved in with my father for a year, graduated with honors, got a very good job, worked my *advertiser censored* off, moved out and bought a car.
I was lucky I had my father as mum lived in Indiana at that time. I was not on any government assistance and I could not even qualify for a pell grand or any grant for school in 1989.
I only had one child at that time, but people with 2,3,4 children end up in school and free child care is easy to obtain if you want to better yourself. I can understand needing assistance and I'm all for that but this getting paid to have babies is a bad deal because it does not encourage the need for education and jobs and the cycle is never broken.
I remarried in 1997, he killed someone and went to prison 3 months later and I'm not going there right now.
I did go back to college for surgical technology in 2000-2001 but that's a another real, real bad story.
I take responsibility for everything I did or didn't do and I haven't even skimmed the surface of my crazy life but y'all aren't dumb either.
Hopefully I can one day talk of my life and write a book because it's a bad lesson learned too late.
I should delete all this and I left many many things out, but I'm just trying to prove any bad situation can be turned around, you just have to want it and I understand there are all kinds of things that can and will hinder and keep you down.
I had a shrink in 2000 cry and slobber like a baby when I told him my story, and he wanted me to tell him all over again so he could video tape it for educational purposes. I have always been curious about that and horrified also, but if it can help I am all for it.
I inserted this last paragraph so y'all will know I am a real movie star. LOL