This, then, strengthens my belief very strongly that he walked away. She was likely obsessive and their lives were so intertwined, she would not have let go of him, no matter where he went, if she knew how to find him. I'd bet all the money in my bank accounts that his leave-taking was because of her clinging and outright dumbness, IMO. Sometimes, a relationship gets so smothering that one person with a strong mind and will HAS TO GET AWAY AND STAY AWAY. Leaving just before he retired was his main way of throwing her off base without committing a crime ( leaving one shoe at a large body of water, cutting himself to bleed a bit in the parked Mini, just anything that pointed straight to foul play, which I understand is a crime to fake). This is a jolt to me, actually but follows the above thought: I've never really thought about this much, but what if his plan was NOT to retire after all? What if he was in talks with the FBI or other covert ops LE of that level and had to leave just like he did leave to make a clean break, did do so, and has had a great second career ( and possibly 3rd marriage , maybe with someone in the intelligence community who was pretty, very smart and feminine who is the mother of their son, perhaps)? He had to be point by point legal with what movements he made so no crime was committed in the leave- taking! We really don't talk about this scenario much, maybe because we don't understand what " covert ops" do, being covert, maybe because some posters think he was " too old". He was not too old to be a division chief or another type of mostly desk work person. He was too old to jump across roofs to catch an international jewel thief. He could not have gone on to do great things under a new ID ( and no photos of the real Ray) if he committed a crime during the " disappearing" process. To become " Richard Smith" or " Jim Cunningham" or another false name which was processed to become his legal name? ( I used two deceased boyfriends' names as examples).