GUILTY Peru - Stephany Flores, 21, murdered in Lima hotel room, 30 May 2010 #17

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  1. Salem

    Salem Former Member

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    Please continue here.

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    Please remember the TOS rules.

    Lots of off topic posts in the last thread. Please try to stay on track.

    Also - link your post to the case (show the connection) or don't hit the post button.

    Thanks

    ETA: Ground Rules

    Keep the discussion relevant to Stephany's murder. Treat Stephany's family with respect - they are victims also.

    No discussion of Natalie or JonBenet or their families. There must be a clear connection between Stephany's murder and the cases of the other two girls, publicized in the mainstream media, before any discussion will be allowed.

    The information regarding JVDS's dog and the homeless man MUST either be substantiated or dropped. At this point it appears this info is based on rumor/speculation. Show where the info comes from or drop it.

    No disparaging remarks about JVDS's mother. You may discuss what has been printed, her quotes in the media, etc. You may NOT bash her. She too is a victim of her son's behavior.

    As always - TOS applies. If you are having trouble, check the TOS forum. You will find a lot of info on threadequitte, dealing with other posters and the rules, long and short versions.

    If you have questions - ask a mod before posting.

    Thanks for your cooperation! And thank you for caring about Stephany.

    Salem
     
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  3. newone

    newone 2nd mouse gets the cheese

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  4. brazen

    brazen New Member

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    :twocents::twocents:Sorry to bring it from another "closed" thread -- but I stand by the Peruvian charges --

    1.) It was a rage killing; problably triggered by sexual rejection, her lesbianism, and her period. (He took off her pants and discovered the sanitary napkin.)
    2.) The rage was not 100% aimed at Stephany, but a release of boundless suppressed rage, at his situation, life, women in general.
    3.) It was a blitz attack - over in minutes - given the differences in size between the killer and the victim.
    4.) The killing occurred early in their stay together.He spent time w/the corpse trying to figure out what to do.
    5.) The coffee runs were attempts at staging and establishing an alibi.
    6.) The robbery was incidental - she didn't have that much money with her - first accounts said 5000 soles - or about $1755. He paid as much to the taxi drivers, even gave them goods in kind. More $$ and he could have chartered a small plane and gone to Aruba. He was IMing money for a plane ticket.
    7) Anita is probably key - she hasn't gone there AFAIK - she seems distant and uncaring. JVDS was probably closer to his dad.
    8) I agree with Peruvian police - aggravated murder with simple robbery.

    <I know all of us - even the poor Flores family (who are now claiming she had $10K) want LWOP - and he could get it in a jury trial - but in a judge panel as exist in most countries - they will go where the evidence takes them without a lot of emotion clouding this issue - at least in theory.>

    There are two big mysteries now -- what happened to Natalee - the Stephany case is open and shut; and what was going on in the VDS household.
     
  5. dolly1

    dolly1 New Member

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    referring to Post # 781 by Dolly1
    Quote:Excellent and very important post!

    Did you see my post of a study on improvement in behavior and criminal acts among teens undergoing diet change

    Yes I did Bobarino and thank you. I definitely believe Joran has been affected by what he ingested. Couple that being a spoiled boy protected by parents who knew he had anger/mental problems and you have disaster. What you said is so true.

    If a chemical or food doesn't affect someone they should not assume it's the same with other people. When I was 16 a boyfriend took me to me to a party and I took two puffs on a marijuana cigarette. He was dead against drugs and so was I, but because we'd been arguing I wanted to annoy him. - I was so immature. Within seconds, I couldn't even stand up and my boyfriend accused the people of putting something in the marijuana. They swore they hadn't, but none of them had ever seen anyone react like that from two puffs, so they said I had probably come to the party already stoned. We had been to dinner so my boyfriend knew it wasn't true. I was so glad someone believed me. I never touched drugs again and I was offered them a lot in college. I believe over a long period of time drugs/marijuana causes changes in the brain and can make a person unbalanced. Not everyone of course, but a person is not sharpest knife in the drawer anymore. Social behavior, memory etc all all affected. I still believe they should suffer the consequences though, they made their own decisions.

    Please excuse any misspellings or missing words in my posts. I am dyslexic and it is difficult for me to catch all mistakes, my eyes don't see them. Because of that, I usually lurk.
     
  6. dolly1

    dolly1 New Member

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    I wish to speak about Joran's mother. I believe she is burnt out. She tries to defend her son but knows he has mental issues and knows darn well he is violent and has murdered at least 3 people. He is her son the family nighmare. She said, "Perhaps it was time to let Joran go". That is someone who can't cope anymore. Her husband probably was the only one who could control him while she coped by staying in denial and stayed out of it. Joran should believe he killed his father, he was an officer of the court and the stress of knowing he helped cover up a murder probably did kill him.
     
  7. Bobbisangel

    Bobbisangel New Member

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    Joran had been complaining that he couldn't get a girl and what he probably meant was he wasn't getting any sex because no girl would give him the time of day.

    I just wonder if he didn't start getting funny with Steph thinking that because she went to his room with him that she was willing. He could have come on strong and yanked her pants off and she fought him and told him that she was gay and that could have been the straw that broke the camel's back. I can see him going into a rage because he thought he was going to finally get some sex and then to find out she is gay! I think he probably started beating the heck out of her and ended up killing her. He knew he was killing her yet just kept right on on purpose with his shirt,

    I think that after she was dead then he went through her pockets and took money and whatever else he took. I believe he took her to his room on some pretense or other but he thought he was going to have sex with her and get hold of her money at some point.
     
  8. brazen

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    He continued killing her because he saw all the blood and knew he was in trouble. So he killed her and started thinking about staging and alibis.
     
  9. dolly1

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    I think Joran believes Natalie and Natalie's mother were the cause of all his problems. He blames the victum and anyone holding him responsible. I think he vented his stored up rage on Stephany because she was a female.
    She probably stood up to him and that was enough to set him off. He is not a balanced person. Speaking of gay, I read in one post a while back that at one time, Joran had a relationship with a male. I can't remember his name. Made me wonder about the loyality of the friend who has been defending Joran on the NG Show. For a short-term friend he seems overly loyal to me. Of course, he could just be a publicity hound.
     
  10. Bobbisangel

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    Who is the third person that Joran has murdered? Was the mother saying "Perhaps it was time to let Joran go" in something in the news? She was actually right though. I think daddy pampered Joran...covered for him and heaven knows what else. Joran was of age and he was old enough to be on his own. The kid has actually been on his own since he was in his early teens. It sounds like he came and went as he pleased...got to gamble and drink while underage, etc. His mother was no longer responsible for him and he should have been on his own...holding down a job...and growing into a man. I would imagine that Joran did exactly what he wanted to whether mom liked it or not when he was living in the home. She probably was relieved when he went off on his own.

    Even though she may have been glad that he moved on she is still holding up for him...making excuses for him...and denying a murder when her son has admitted he did it. If she is smart she will stay in Aruba and take care of her youngest son. Joran will be just fine on his own.
     
  11. kaRN

    kaRN Verified Health Professional - Registered Nurse

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    Re bolded ITA JVDS was probably closer to his Dad but don't assume Anita to be distant and uncaring. She was quoted in MSNBC saying "If he did this, he must bear the consequences. I can not embrace him," Anita van der Sloot said. She claims that her son was in recent years developed severe mental problems. " His departure to Peru was a flight to escape being committed to a clinic."
    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/37802494/ns/world_news-americas/

    Kudos to Anita I say. How refreshing for a Mother to have the mental health and personal integrity to protect herself and her other son, while grieving the loss of her husband. There are enough examples of Mothers in complete denial, tampering with evidence, lying to authorities all the while screaming the injustice of it all on behalf of their innocent offspring. She isn't criticizing the Peruvian justice system or blaming anyone except the person who needed help, was offered it (probably repeatedly) and refused.
    She's setting a wonderful example to Jorans younger brother IMHO and that's exactly what she should be doing. It's too late for Joran. IMO Anita possesses
    the serenity to accept the things she cannot change, has the
    courage to change the things she can and is wise enough to know the difference.
     
  12. kaRN

    kaRN Verified Health Professional - Registered Nurse

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    Are you professionally qualified to diagnose Anita and her ability to cope?
    She's actually doing exactly what a mentally healthy person and good Mother should at this point. She is a victim too and we should back off IMO.
     
  13. hollyblue

    hollyblue It may be the cock that crows, but it is the hen t

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    Although I think JVS had some serious mental problems, I still believe the parents turning a blind eye to the obvious problems belying Joran certainly enabled him. He should have been in counseling---along with the parents in trying to resolve these issues many years ago. Giving a teen a credit line at bars, clubs and casinos was certainly not doing anything constructive in changing his behavior. They were the adults in the situation and they made bad, bad choices. JVS was doing some pretty atrocious stuff when he was young --and would have no choice to go into therapy or off another gambling spree. JMO

    Paulus chose to cover up for Joran--he can't blame that on anyone but himself. They were lax in disiplining and giving proper consistant direction to him and now cry foul. It's a pity and shame really.
     
  14. newone

    newone 2nd mouse gets the cheese

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    When Paulus died of cardiac arrest in February this year, Anita reportedly went into a depression from which she hasn&#8217;t emerged.

    http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-...riends-turn-their-back-on-van-der-sloot/full/


    ...which by the way is totally understandable and the last need thing she needs is her 22 yr old idiot of a son acting out -- and you Don't need to be a professional to get that!
     
  15. Bobarino

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    Another very wise and intelligent post Dolly1!

    I only wish I didn't have to stay anonymous, I'd tell you how to fix some of those problems like dyslexia. You can PM me though.
     
  16. dolly1

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    He threw a homeless man off a bridge, he probably killed Natalie H. and now he has killed Stephany. What Anita Van der Sloot said was from the first interview she gave to a Dutch paper. She said he had left Holland so as not to be confined in a mental ward there. She had tried to get him mental help and he refused.
     
  17. dolly1

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    I agree, I think many parents defend their children and blame others. When children get into trouble parents blame the "influences" of the other peers or just claim flat out they didn't do it. If you ever watch Judge Judy, you see it in action. Parents sue teachers and schools when their children are disciplined too. It only stops children from learning cause and effect. Add mental problems to that and you raise a monster who thinks he can do what he pleases with no consequences.
     
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    Please, I have asked this before... does anyone have links or proof that men routinely murder women because they are on their periods when they want to have sex with them? That when women are on their periods men cannot rape them and therefore go raging mad and kill them? That no women are raped when they are on their periods?

    How can this be a basis for a theory? Do sanitary napkins really inspire so much outrage that a woman would be killed for it?? I do not think so. While I have heard of men who are considerate when women might not feel well on their periods, I have only heard once or twice where a man turned down sex because a woman was on her period. Mostly I've heard men like it because they think there's less chance of getting someone pregnant.

    So, please, someone give me a link that shows that a rapist will respect a woman claiming to not feel well on her period, decline to rape her, but will murder her instead because he's so put out by it.

    Have I missed something? Because I've read she was not sexually assaulted. I also do not get why her lesbianism would inspire murder.

    Robbery? Yes, I get that.

     
  19. dolly1

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    I am a degreed professional, I have done drug counseling for 40 years. I am not attacking Anita, I do not know her. I have seen parents deny, deny, deny what their children have done and then become so overwhelmed they suddenly just give up. The saying in AA is: Let go and let God. I believe Anita loves her son and wants to help him but has come to the end of her rope. Perhaps it is time for her to let go, she no longer has a husband and has other children to care for. It is very depressing and innervating to try and cope or live with someone abusing drugs. One never knows if you are talking to the person or the drug. One is not dealing with a rational person and their sickness ends up controlling the whole family. Another AA saying is - Alcoholics don't have relationships they take hostages - it is the same with drug addicts.
     
  20. Mrs G Norris

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    A voice of reason...go figure! The 'she wouldn't sleep with me so I had to kill her' theory is not backed up by any evidence, unlike the 'Joran was becoming increasingly desperate for money in the days leading up to the murder, and did actually relieve her of cash, cards and a vehicle' theory which is well documented.

    I agree its important to stick to the facts and not speculate wildly. Its possible of course that he removed her clothes as part of his attempt at a cover up (which he abandoned half way through once he saw the camera outside his room), but that would be more speculation of course.

    I have to stick up for Anita again too, she had had Joran in therapy throughout his teenage years, she was in the process of having him sent to some kind of hospital or rehab for more treatment when this happened, and I truly believe she was trying to address the 'Joran problem' as well as she could. As we are all aware psychopathy cannot be cured, in fact there is evidence that treatment makes them worse. So I really think we need to stop blaming Anita.

    Also let's remember...she's not the one who gave him a line of credit at the casino in Aruba, she wasn't even on the island the night Natalee disappeared and she did not kill Stephany Flores. Also...her son is in Jail for murder in PERU, the world is out for his blood, the chances of him surviving his sentence are minimal, she just lost her husband to a heart attack a few short months ago, and therefore I think we should show her some compassion.

    JMO
     
  21. nervous_nellie

    nervous_nellie Carpe Noctem

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    i too agree that sanitary napkins prolly wouldnt have spun him into a murderous rage... i do wonder if he in his warped over-entitled and overly sensitive to rejection state of mind thought/felt that her telling him that she was a lesbian was just a way to reject him that he wouldnt have any say in the matter - her saying "no thanks, im gay" would have been the end of it, and he thought it was a lie, that she was just rejecting him... he may be one of those kind of guys that demand that all women succumb to his appeal, lol , but he is off the chart in the force used to "persuade" women in this charade. who knows...we may never truly "know" what happened. i still tend to believe this had more to do with him wanting to charm the money out of her purse and when she either caught him in the act of stealing or wasnt going along with the program he just got pizzed and went off - WAY off.
     
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