zippitydoda
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Molly Wei is on the stand now testifying.
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The big question is would Ravi have done the same thing if it was a heteorsexual encounter
It was NOT his private room, it was a room he shared with Ravi, he had no expectation of privacy. On the first encounter he misled Ravi regarding the duration of the encounter, and on the second there does not appear to be any indication that Ravi agreed to give him privacy.
According to the timeline in that article, he asked Ravi for private time, but when Ravi returned at 9PM he found out that "private time" was for the entire night. Ravi was expected to find somewhere else to sleep, not his own bedroom. It is not surprising for him to have been pretty POed at that point. Wouldn't you be?
Then, two days later he does the same thing, but only AFTER he has been posting online about it and requesting a room change. There is no way he would not have been aware that Ravi was very annoyed by the previous days events, so it was a provocative act. Clementi knew what Ravi's reaction was going to be, but went ahead and did it anyway. The only reasonable reason would be to elicit the obvious response he knew he was going to get. It is pretty clear that he was looking for drama/fight and was prepared, setting up a paper trail. If he was not being provocative the logical thing would have been to request a room change and not entertain guests until he moved, to maintain the peace. He didn't do that.
And then the next day he jumps off the bridge, even as Ravi is texting him to defuse the situation.
It is quite clear IMO that he was unstable, and there are probably other things going on in his life to precipitate this.
Sounds like Ravi has a rather paranoid personality. I wonder if Ravi was himself a target of bullying. Same goes with Wei.
Ravi's friends have also stated that they do not recall him ever having a girlfriend.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...rivate-sexual-activity.html?ito=feeds-newsxml
Why didn't the prosecution mention the suicide?
I have to say that I agree with you on this. It is an unpopular position. I feel like Dharun Ravi should be punished for invasion of privacy - but that the charges brought against him are rather extreme.
Things like this, I'm sure, happen all the time. I think that there are many questions unanswered about Tyler Clementi. Based on his internet posts and ichats with his friends, he was not devestated by what had happened. Anyone can say that he was filtering his posts and putting on a different front, but how do they know for sure that he was not? How do I know for sure he wasn't completely devestated? I can't be sure. But I can be sure that there was definitely something else going on with Tyler and that many of the media reports are wrong...
There was no sex ever witnessed - it was not broadcast to crowds of people - Tyler Clementi was not a closeted gay who was outed by these kids (he came out to his parents and brought his lover into the dorm where he was seen by others - he was no longer in the closet or didn't want people to know) - it was not recorded - he was not "bullied" in my opinion... as a victim of bullying myself.
What those kids did was wrong - definitely - when I was in college, similar things happened quite often. Not out of malice... just out of immaturity. Doubtful these kids thought too far about what impact it may have. You could say something the wrong way to anyone you come in contact with that could push them over the edge.
Just my two cents though. I think it's very tragic and could have been prevented, but that prevention needed to take place long before Ravi ever saw him on webcam. I also think that Molly Wei's plea deal (the counseling, community service etc) would have sufficed for Ravi as well. They will both have to deal with this for the rest of their lives.
Ravi's friends have also stated that they do not recall him ever having a girlfriend.
He refused the plea deal. I think that says a lot about him, imo.
I think it might be possible he is/was questioning his own sexuality and was curious and the joking about it etc. was to make it 'okay' to whatever part of his brain was having trouble grappling with it.
Not that it makes it okay. It doesn't.