(the Danger of a Closed Mind thread was getting long) JonBenet was a darling child who was brutally murdered in her own home less than 24 hours after the most magical day of the year for a child. Most of us are here because we feel a great deal of compassion for this tiny victim and because we are outraged at her killer getting away with it. The evidence is muddy - it neither incriminates nor clears anyone absolutely. For that reason above any other, I belileve we owe it to Jonbenet not to close our minds to ANY suspect unless he or she has been absolutely cleared by an ironclad alibi (or until the perp has been nailed). JonBenet was the victim - this is all about finding justice for her. There is NO doubt in my mind that JonBenet knew her killer. I don't *think* it was a parent but I do think it was someone close to the family. I don't think it was a parent because I simply don't think the Ramseys were violent towards their children. All I have read indicates that they were quite the opposite - lenient even. That is something I can identify with. I am pretty laid back and no matter what my children did, I never found myself in a position where I would have harmed them and I cannot imagine being there. Most parents who harm their children have other stuff going on - alchohol, drugs, money problems. I think the Ramseys had too many friends, a close knit family, high profile social life for them to get strung up about a tantrum or a wet bed. The don't fit the profile for parents who kill their children yet it is this very self same lifestyle and social standing which I can believe would make them attempt to cover up an ugly accident at any cost. The facts that we know are that the evidence doesn't clear the Ramseys and that appearances can be deceptive. I personally knew someone who was regarded as a pillar of the community and who turned out to be a drug dealer and that kind of experience makes you question your ability to judge character... ...We also know that the vast majority of people were puzzled by their reluctance to co-operate with police and failure to use their wealth and social standing to push the investigation. Despite my feelings that they are innocent of their daughter's murder, I cannot reconcile the latter in my mind as many seem able to do. I cannot rationalise some of their behaviour at all. I look at other parents of murdered children and imagine the kind of impact the Ramseys *could* have on the investigation had if they had chosen to work with police instead of against them. Either way, regardless of whether the Ramseys were pillars of the community or potential child killers, we know that they had friends who are out and out fruitcakes. Friends who exhibited mightily odd behaviour before and after the murder which cannot be attributed to shock. Friends who found it amusing to pretend to be another woman's husband's mistress "for fun". Friends who found it amusing to sign up for e-mail impersonating the Chief of Police and spend THREE YEARS sending fake e-mails pretending to believe in the Ramseys' guilt! I cannot understand the mind which thinks like this at all. I am on JonBenet's side. I am and always have been a neutral observer and my mind remains open to all possibilities. Incidentally, I also think Tom Bennett is neutral. He has remained professionally silent and has said virtually nothing about the case unless it was to set the record straight about the fact that the DNA might not be the killer's when the media were stating it was as a fact. I think it will be a neutral party who will solve this case. Someone who is on JonBenet's side - and ONLY JonBenet's side. Someone who is willing to follow the evidence no matter where it leads them. Someone who won't give the parents a "pass" because of the "kind of people we are"and who won't give the Ramsey friends a pass because ... well because they are the Ramseys' friends. I think one of them is getting away with murder. The Ramseys have their friends and their supporters - and I'm glad they do because in the eyes of the Law, they are innocent people. How awful to lose your beloved child and then spend the rest of your life being wrongly blamed for another's evil actions? However, the fact is that they remain suspects who have not been cleared absolutely in their daughter's murder and for that reason, we need to keep an open mind for Jonbenet's sake. We need to keep an open mind if we want to be part of Team JonBenet.