Teenager will work for food sign

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  1. Details

    Details Former Member

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    OK, is the mother right or is the child development expert right?

    I'm with the mother on this one - that child development expert sounds like a loony who thinks you must coddle the child's self esteem with praise right or wrong

    http://www.signonsandiego.com/news/nation/20051116-1516-girloncorner.html
     
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  3. dancingdaisy

    dancingdaisy ^j^

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    I think if i was in this girls situation and my parents did this to me I would straighten my act up real quick! I think it would be effective.
     
  4. Mr. E

    Mr. E New Member

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    I'm with the mom, as long as the girl wasn't left alone to become pervert prey. I'm all for that kind of harmless creative parenting. Let's the kid know you're not afraid to do whatever it takes to straighten you out.
     
  5. Amraann

    Amraann Former Member

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    Mom is right and honestly I am so freakin tired of this new trend to coddle kids ....


    SO many are not being taught about life that way.. They are being raised to deal with adult life.
    If you get mouth ywith your boss they are not going to stop and worry of your feelings... They are going to fire you..
     
  6. bakerprune64

    bakerprune64 Former Member

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    :clap: Hoorayyyy for mom! I think was a very creative form of discipline.
     
  7. SieSie

    SieSie Active Member

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    Go, Mom, Go! She didn't endanger her child at all, and it wasn't even "tough love", but I bet someone out there will probably try to sue her or take her child away. I'd have cleaned my act up if I'd have been humiliated like that! I hope the daughter gets back to school and tries harder and I wish the Mom luck.
     
  8. Beyond Belief

    Beyond Belief New Member

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    I am with the mother. She didn't ignore her child's problems.

    I think the idea "Teenager will work for food" is so cute, I think I'll have a poster made for my teenager and give it for xmas.
     
  9. Casshew

    Casshew Former Member

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    Way to go Mom.

    I am going to make my husband stand on the corner with a sign the says 'I don't put the seat down'
     
  10. SieSie

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    OMG, too funny, Cass!
     
  11. Sassygerl

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    I showed this to my almost 13 year old son who just got his report card and is in some trouble. It's wasn't earth shattering horrible, but not acceptable here!!!! Especially when I emailed a teacher and she said he just chooses not to do his work in class....time to get my can of whoopazz out!!!!! While I don't know that I'd make him wear a sign, although it's not out of question...LOL.....my best friend recently pre-arranged a set up at school and took the day off and showed up at school to go to class with her son for the day! I told my son we'd do the same and he was horrified...and better yet, he knows we would do it!!! Plus, my dh does a GREAT Mrs. Doubtfire...and he would certainly not be embarrassed to do it throughout the day in between classes! So, needless to say, the past few days I've seen more books come home that I have in weeks/months!
     
  12. lostfaith

    lostfaith Lost my mind too!

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    I give this Mom alot of credit for carrying through with it! I think it was an awesome idea! I get so sick of hearing that "reward good behavior" B.S. What are you supposed to do, reward the only B on a report card and ignore the other 6 D's?????? Kids' need to learn consequence!
     
  13. SewingDeb

    SewingDeb "Sorry, I'm not qualified to land the plane."

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    You're right about that. They do need to learn consequences.
     
  14. Bobbisangel

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    Donald Wertlieb, a professor of child development at the Eliot-Pearson Department of Child Development at Tufts University, warned that such punishment could do extreme emotional damage. He said rewarding positive behavior is more effective.


    I'd like to see what his kids are like.....IF HE HAS ANY :mad:

    I heard on the news tonight that this girl is doing a lot better in school :D
     
  15. Norma

    Norma Pook

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    I know a woman who took her two sons to sleep in a homeless shelter one night so they could see what it would be like if they didn't straighten up. And these two boys were a lot younger than this girl was.

    I've also taken my son to a shelter, though we didn't stay the night. Don't know who it had a more profound affect on, me or him.
     
  16. Linda7NJ

    Linda7NJ New Member

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    I reward good behavior with nothing but PRAISE if my child EARNED it! He EARNS whatever consequence he receives, even the negative ones! I make sure he knows he earned it too....I think it helps with taking responsibility for his actions!
     
  17. jannuncutt

    jannuncutt jannuncutt

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    I nominate this mom for "Mother of the Year"!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :clap::clap::clap::clap::clap:
     
  18. NewMom2003

    NewMom2003 Former Member

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    I agree! :clap:
     
  19. MrsMush99

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    Maybe I should send this link to my SIL. She's ALWAYS worried about how things make my nephew "feel". :banghead:
     
  20. Maral

    Maral New Member

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    I don't think either of them is right. I'm definitely not for codding kids, but I do think that the mother could have achieved the same results by having the girl spend the day working at a homeless shelter or a soup kitchen. That way, she could see first hand what it could be like for her if she doesn't straighten up and she'd be doing something positive at the same time.
     
  21. JBean

    JBean Retired WS Administrator

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    I'm not much into public humiliation. This punishment is silly to me.
    I think there are lots of ways to instill good work ethic, compassion and good values in your kids that doesn't have to include parading their shortcomings around town.
     

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