Deceased/Not Found UK - Bernadette Walker, 17, left parent's car, Peterborough, 21 July 2020 *Arrests*

Discussion in 'Missing Persons Discussion' started by RobinCAL, Sep 12, 2020.

Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.
  1. moody_chicago

    moody_chicago Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    345
    Likes Received:
    2,558
    Trophy Points:
    93
    YUCK. Fathers who are this “protective” over their daughters and fixated on their sex lives really disgust me. Some might find it funny or an old fashioned way of thinking but I find it repulsive.

    It wouldn’t shock me if she was planning to move on from the family and start a life with a bf/gf and this enraged her parents. ScW needs her around because he’s a possessive creep and SaW needs her because she’s been made to take care of her siblings. Heaven forbid this child had any sense of autonomy.
    MOO
     


  2. esthome

    esthome Active Member

    Messages:
    25
    Likes Received:
    165
    Trophy Points:
    28
    It was reported that she was not with her boyfriend anymore so I don’t think this had anything to do with her wanting to leave home to be with him.
     
    Flicka1 and Marg from Oz like this.
  3. elliefant

    elliefant Numpty

    Messages:
    682
    Likes Received:
    6,773
    Trophy Points:
    93
    @moody_chicago Very interesting post with lots to consider. I have been very uncomfortable with SaW’s continual parading of her children on social media in vulnerable pictures of their ill-health. I don’t think it’s necessarily MSBP, but it does feel like using their vulnerability to garner attention and get extra money from strangers, which doesn’t sit right with me. I realise my view will be abhorrent to some but well, murder is abhorrent and if they can (albeit yet to be proven) murder their child what else can they do?

    I stress I am not talking about the actions of caring parents with ill or disabled children, so I hope nobody takes offence. I am talking about potential murderers.

    I have seen nothing that makes me feel SaW would be less culpable than ScW. There can be a natural instinct to think a mother would be too nurturing to do this, but the threads of this forum sadly prove otherwise.
     
    Last edited: Oct 6, 2020
  4. Homo Habilis

    Homo Habilis Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    145
    Likes Received:
    1,181
    Trophy Points:
    93
    Wow, an awful lot to chew on. Please don't be shy about putting ideas accross no matter how wild or insensitive you may think, especially when discussing such an odd case. You've only enrichened this thread. Some notes:

    Yes, the substance abuse idea rings true. AnW's comment points towards something of this nature: [sic] 'I would totally agree with you too up untill around 2 years ago when he became abusive towards us all'.

    And the Gypsy Rose Blanchard theory, it figures seeing as the mother publicised her children's ailments, and in such weirdly explicit detail. Real cute kids as well which made it hard to read.

    <modsnip>
     
    Last edited by a moderator: Oct 6, 2020
  5. Tortoise

    Tortoise Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    17,818
    Likes Received:
    71,728
    Trophy Points:
    113
    Bumping this post.
     
    Flicka1, Marg from Oz, rhino and 9 others like this.
  6. esthome

    esthome Active Member

    Messages:
    25
    Likes Received:
    165
    Trophy Points:
    28
    I believe it was concluded that ScW killing someone was another man of this name.
     
    Flicka1, Marg from Oz, Ellmau and 6 others like this.
  7. whatawaster

    whatawaster Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    60
    Likes Received:
    371
    Trophy Points:
    53
    You make some interesting points. The part that stuck out for me the most is maybe Bernadette was fed up with the life she was given. This hits home for me and I guess that's really why I'm checking for updates on her daily. In the early days I hoped she just ran away from home for a better life... But it doesn't look good.
     
  8. Smithpanes

    Smithpanes Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    128
    Likes Received:
    923
    Trophy Points:
    93
  9. Joey100

    Joey100 Member

    Messages:
    12
    Likes Received:
    80
    Trophy Points:
    13
    I agree about SW thriving off of the attention she gets from having 3 sick children and being the mother to so many others. I'm not sure its MHBP but I feel very uncomfortable with the pictures she put on SM of her children in hospital.
    There was also the newspaper articles she did and and the go fund me she put on twitter.
    BW had pictures on her Facebook as well of when they were on the TV show DIY SOS, which if your not in the UK is a show that does up people's house's that need it or they adapt them if someone in the family has a disability.
    Obviously its incredibly hard to be a carer to sick/disabled children or family members and believe me I know people that care for children or family members with severe disabilities but they don't put it all over SM especially of their children in hospital.
     
  10. Homo Habilis

    Homo Habilis Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    145
    Likes Received:
    1,181
    Trophy Points:
    93
    Indeed. You barely have time for social media when caring for a sick/disabled person. Let alone three of them and an overall family of nine.
     
  11. Homo Habilis

    Homo Habilis Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    145
    Likes Received:
    1,181
    Trophy Points:
    93
    I'll be driving over that bridge in about half hour. Be interesting to see. I'm guessing they'll move towards the Peakirk area next as there is lots of water around there. Near to where they are in that picture there's also a filled in quarry, or something. Very swampy.
     
  12. mspuurfect

    mspuurfect Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    117
    Likes Received:
    564
    Trophy Points:
    93
    I think tensions in that house had been mounting for years, perhaps ScW became very depressed a couple of years ago when he could no longer work? SaW has mentioned depression alot in her SM account and I think became more and more narcissistic and attention seeking especially over last year, the older kids IMO also seemed depressed - I think something happened and all those emotions exploded into something truly horrific. JMO
     
  13. Scorpiette

    Scorpiette Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    409
    Likes Received:
    2,214
    Trophy Points:
    93
    Was the family's house done up by DIY SOS? It would be interesting to find that particular episode..
     
  14. Tortoise

    Tortoise Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    17,818
    Likes Received:
    71,728
    Trophy Points:
    113
    No, it was a children's disability centre

    New centre for disabled children
     
  15. mrazda71

    mrazda71 Human bean

    Messages:
    2,799
    Likes Received:
    8,963
    Trophy Points:
    113
    The topic of Munchausen by proxy (or Fabricated/induced illness as it is now termed) keeps being brought up.

    The 3 children are diagnosed with a genetic illness, they've had multiple operations on the NHS and no doubt genetic testing. Here in the UK you can't just ask for tests or treatments to be done and hand over your credit card.
    If those children had surgeries it's because they absolutely needed them.

    Whatever has occurred with Bernadette, there is absolutely no evidence of and Fabricated or induced illness.

    I am the parent of a disabled daughter following a Stroke at 13 and myself and my children all have a genetic illness.

    The judgement from some on subjects that they very obviously have zero personal experience of is troubling.

    Sarah's social media 'campaigns' for her children aren't at all unusual for families with rare illness. You want to tell the world and find other people who are sharing your journey.

    Also, disability benefits don't just get handed out ... many here seem to be under the impression that if your child is disabled and 'needs a wheelchair' that some service just drops one off at your door the next day and that is far from the truth. You can be told your child isn't eligible, there's no funding, there's no wheelchair that suits their needs and your only option is to fund it yourself and they can cost hundreds to thousands. Many families are forced to campaign and G-F-M to buy equipment.

    I'll also add that from what I know of the children disability, they can have periods of being well and mobile when there's no tumour causing issues so there are times when they may seem 'okay', that doesn't mean they are.
     
    Tinksx, Flicka1, Lyanna and 11 others like this.
  16. Smithpanes

    Smithpanes Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    128
    Likes Received:
    923
    Trophy Points:
    93
    Ooo do let us know.
     
  17. Ruthbullock

    Ruthbullock Well-Known Member

    Messages:
    1,307
    Likes Received:
    5,685
    Trophy Points:
    113
  18. elliefant

    elliefant Numpty

    Messages:
    682
    Likes Received:
    6,773
    Trophy Points:
    93
    I have a disabled niece; I know her parents to be loving, devoted and really hard-working in the face of great struggles. I sympathise and support those who live that life, it is very challenging and they are absolute heroes.

    I am so sorry @mrazda71 if you feel parents of disabled children are being judged. I certainly hope I don’t appear to be doing that. I have to say again that comments here, certainly on my part but I assume others too, are not tarring all with the same brush. They are not about all parents with disabled children. They are about a set of parents who the police believe capable of, and responsible for, murdering their child. That makes them a whole different kettle of fish.

    moo
     
  19. mrazda71

    mrazda71 Human bean

    Messages:
    2,799
    Likes Received:
    8,963
    Trophy Points:
    113

    My comment wasn't aimed at anyone specific, definitely not you.

    I was posting to shed some light on the subject of being a parent of a disabled child and genetic illness from an informed perspective.

    I don't recall who but someone suggested that a parent/carer of a disabled person wouldn't have time for social media.

    From experience carers have more time for social media than most as they're often not able to work full time or have social lives or get out. Our lives are often lived through social media. That is where our friends are, our support networks.

    The children of the family were not severely disabled and needing 24 hour care and there are 2 adults and 3 older teens/young adults in the house to all pitch in.

    I think it's got to the stage now where there is no new information being put out and so theories just go around in circles and become. more outlandish.

    I'm sure we will all be sitting open mouthed on the day that all the skeletons are freed in court because I am highly doubtful that these 2 will plead guilty.
     
  20. Joey100

    Joey100 Member

    Messages:
    12
    Likes Received:
    80
    Trophy Points:
    13
    Thanks I'll remove that post. I completely forgot they did big projects like that. SW had tagged the presenter a few times that's why I thought it was their house.
     
    Flicka1, Marg from Oz and elliefant like this.
Thread Status:
Not open for further replies.

Share This Page



  1. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register.
    By continuing to use this site, you are consenting to our use of cookies.
    Dismiss Notice