Marg from Oz
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Perhaps D.N.A. from the stamp would help identify the writer.
Dad seems protesting too much about "honestly there really weren't any problems". Perhaps Stevens apprentice award & extrovert nature meant he was getting more determined to lead an independant adult life , as his learning difficulties were only mild: & maybe his parents were finding it hard to let go & tensions around that were brewing .Christmas can be a catalyst at such times. People think I can't do this for another year . I don't think there was a walk at all. Sorry to seem harsh but his Mum seems 'off'. Being sad I can understand, but 'bitter' & at him ? Hmm.From the link that you posted:
Although Steven had been injured in a road accident in Scotland when he was two, leaving him with a limp, he was still able to walk fairly quickly, Charles said.
He added: “A bad limp affected his walk, but he could have got quite a distance in a short time, we walked to Saltburn regularly.
"He was quick if he wanted to be. There was not a hint of any problems, honestly there was not.”
(...)
His mother described Steven as a very sociable young man.
She said: “Obviously, he hated his disability. But he loved being out with people.”
She said Steven enjoyed music, bowling and going out.
BBM
The only disabilities that I have seen mentioned sofar are a disabled arm and a slight limp. Didn't stop him from walking or bowling or socializing.
This was the age when mobile phones were only starting to appear and not the commodity they are today. When people could not check on everything and everyone and had to make independent decisions. The son was 23 and an adult, not a toddler. So the mother went home and put the kettle on, expecting the son to come home. The father went to a football match.
Sensible behaviour in 1992.
Dad seems protesting too much about "honestly there really weren't any problems". Perhaps Stevens apprentice award & extrovert nature meant he was getting more determined to lead an independant adult life , as his learning difficulties were only mild: & maybe his parents were finding it hard to let go & tensions around that were brewing .Christmas can be a catalyst at such times. People think I can't do this for another year . I don't think there was a walk at all. Sorry to seem harsh but his Mum seems 'off'. Being sad I can understand, but 'bitter' & at him ? Hmm.
did he have learning difficulties? His disability was from being in a car accident and I've only ever seen reference to physical issues, not intellectual ones. But I might have missed something?
did he have learning difficulties? His disability was from being in a car accident and I've only ever seen reference to physical issues, not intellectual ones. But I might have missed something?
The writing on the envelope could have been my late MIL's, it looked so very similar to hers, including the punctuation in the address. Kind of freaked me out, as a matter of fact. She was from Newcastle, no further education past a secretarial course, worked for Rolls Royce in a clerical position and did a lot of writing for her job. Her writing was almost always all caps, very neat, punctuation that as an American, I found quaintly old-fashioned. Showed it to my husband, and he said, Wow, looks like Mum wrote that! (She didn't, she had lived in the states for 20+ years by 1998).
I know that is completely unhelpful as far as the investigation, but I thought it was interesting.
I'd really like to know what other impairments Steven had and how much care he needed. Since the accident happened when he was two, did he have intellectual delays? What kind and how pronounced were they? He was clearly doing well with his training, how did his parents feel about him possibly gaining more independence?
I wonder if the letter writer wasn't someone who knew the family, but not well enough to know that he was Steven v Stephen. Someone local to them, like @Skigh said, a milkman, or a shopkeeper. Someone who may have seen/heard something that wasn't right.
ETA: Am I not the only one who finds this whole case just really strange? I'm also not confident in whatever investigation was carried out at the time. Not at all. The parents' comments now, just really strange and someone else mentioned almost bitter, and I agree.
I wonder if the letter writer wasn't someone who knew the family, but not well enough to know that he was Steven v Stephen. Someone local to them, like @Skigh said, a milkman, or a shopkeeper. Someone who may have seen/heard something that wasn't right.
ETA: Am I not the only one who finds this whole case just really strange? I'm also not confident in whatever investigation was carried out at the time. Not at all. The parents' comments now, just really strange and someone else mentioned almost bitter, and I agree.
Is there any information about his sister? I haven't seen anything, other than the fact that he has a sister. No age, did she live at home at the time, where is she now, etc.
I noticed that as well, Mimi. Most 21 year olds aren't real hip on spending their 21st with the folks. At least not the whole celebration. It was almost...childish? the card display. Other than the bottle of booze, of course.