Still Missing VA - Bethany Decker, 21, Ashburn, 29 Jan 2011

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  1. Soulmagent

    Soulmagent Well-Known Member

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    Wow He really did have over a 1000 people aware of her case. I think Virginia LE is going try to keep alot quiet like they and Have in Samatha Clarks case. They are good a keeping things quiet.

    I feel she has national interest and they are going to sweep her under the rug. I was excited for all the people joining and supporting her that would be made aware of other cases and the issue as a whole.

    I am so very sad.
     


  2. belimom

    belimom Speak the truth even if your voice shakes~M.Kuhn

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    I agree. I think that the LE in this case may not be accustomed to FB and the exposure a case gets there - both the good and bad some out. But I would never dream that it would harm a case. If they didn't like what was going on, they could have just ignored it. MOO

    Prayers that she's found soon.
     
  3. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    Except that the Loudoun County Sheriff's Office posted her FB page on their FB page, directing people there for more information. I don't think that they are behind the shut down.
     
  4. belimom

    belimom Speak the truth even if your voice shakes~M.Kuhn

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    Good point. I wonder if it's the military... since he's overseas? Just speculating - but it was made to sound like someone with authority asked them to shut it down. :waitasec:

    ETA: Unless it got more attention than Loudoun County thought it would?
     
  5. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    Police searching for missing Army wife

    http://www.wtkr.com/news/wtkr-army-wife-missing-mar2,0,6972219.story?track=rss

    Things that make you go hmmm....
     
  6. TripleA

    TripleA New Member

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    If the son is 21 months ols that means he was conceived somewhere in July/August 2008, but they have only been married since around Aug 2009 (approx). So, my questions on that are:

    How long have they actually been together?
    Is the 18 month old his biological son, or did he meet her while she was pregnant and just took on the responsibility of being "Dad"?
    Many times military will get married simply for the health and financial benefits.

    Also, if her husband was on leave and she is 5 months pregnant, then he would have been home since October. October, Nov, Dec, Jan and Feb is a very long leave time. IMO, it is unlikely that he was on leave that long which gives credibility to the possibility that that child in utero may not have been his child.
     
  7. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    From the same article...

    http://www.wtkr.com/news/wtkr-army-w...tory?track=rss
     
  8. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    http://edition.cnn.com/2011/CRIME/03/03/virginia.missing.mom/index.html?hpt=T2#

    Okay, so if she was in the process of moving out, where was she moving to? Her grandparents' house? That would be a bit of a drive each day to school. Her parents' house? Another long drive. Campus housing? She should have moved in by then.

    So the question is where then?

    If they were staying with her grandparents' after their trip to Hawaii and not at the apartment, that to me is indicative that she was likely living with someone in that apartment. I know that had been speculated and rumored, but I thin kit is likely the case.

    So then I am beginning to get the impression that the person that she may have been lviing with is actually the one involved and not her husband.

    Suppose Bethany and another man had been living together. She becomes pregnant, either possibly with this man's child, and they continue living together. Emile comes home from deployment. He stays with her grandparents in MD. He and Bethany try to work things out and even go on a trip to HI to visit her father. They come back from their trip and both stay with her grandparents. Somewhere along the line it is decided for Bethany to move out of that apartment. Bethany goes to that apartment on 1/29 to continue moving her stuff out (but to where?). The man that she was living with realizes that he is losing Bethany and things go south from there.

    This is what I am beginning to feel may have happened to this poor girl.

    All of this is MOO and pure speculation!
     
  9. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    Now that is possible. However, I still didn't really get the impression that it was an official who suggested the shut down. Maybe her family? Though her brother was one of the creators. I don't know.

    ETA ~ If you search Bethany Decker on FB and then click on posts by others, the creator comments about just not wanthing to risk hindering the investigation by the potential for others to post rumors on the page. I think he just got scared. JMOO
     
  10. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    Their son is 17mo. I have not seen anything to indicate that the boy is not his biological son. As I understand things, they have been married for close to 2 years, so likely got married as a result of the pregnancy, if they had not already planned to do so.

    Emile had only been on leave for a few weeks. However, someone posted up thread that you only have to have been deployed for a couple of months to become eligible to return home on leave for R&R. So it is plausible that, depending on how long Emile had been deployed before coming home on leave, that he could be the biological father of the child that she is pregnant with.

    However, it is also plausible that the child could have been fathered by someone else.
     
  11. TripleA

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    That makes more sense now, sorry, not sure where I got 21 months. That means that he was born sometime around Sept/Oct of 2009. So maybe they got married just before he was born.
     
  12. hollye

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    Police discuss missing Va. woman

    http://voices.washingtonpost.com/crime-scene/loudoun/va-woman-missing-police-call-p.html

    BBM

    So she hadn't packed anything and it didn't appear that she was planning to leave the aprtment. Was she planning to renew the lease? Had she done so?
     
  13. TripleA

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    I thought earlier reports said she planning a move???
     
  14. hollye

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    Family, Investigators Seek Tips, Answers About Missing Woman

    http://www.leesburg2day.com/articles/2011/03/02/news/9256missing030211.txt

     
  15. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    Also from the same article http://www.leesburg2day.com/articles/2011/03/02/news/9256missing030211.txt

    So it is possible that she was actually being evicted and not planning to move out? That would make sense as to why nothing was packed.

    Did she get scared that she had nowhere to go if she was being evicted and she took off? I don't think she did, but I suppose it is possible.
     
  16. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    Again from the same article http://www.leesburg2day.com/articles/2011/03/02/news/9256missing030211.txt

    So the baby was likely conceived right before deployment. That is not uncommon. I know my brother and his wife were trying like crazy to get pregnant before he was deployed.
     
  17. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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  18. TripleA

    TripleA New Member

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    Guess I was wrong...
     
  19. hollye

    hollye Well-Known Member

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    Current Timeline

    Spring 2009 ~ Bethany & Emile are married
    Fall 2009 ~ Baby K is born
    September/October 2010 ~ Baby #2 is conceived
    October 2010 ~ Emile is deployed to Afghanistan
    January 2011 ~ Emile is home on R&R
    January 18-23, 2011 ~ Bethnay & Emile visit Bethany's father in Hawaii
    January 24, 2011 (Mon) ~ 1st day of classes at GMU
    January 28, 2011 (Fri) ~ Bethany & Emile are at Bethany's grandparents' residence & Bethany's parents speak to Bethany for the last time
    January 29, 2011 (Sat) ~ Last time there is any activity on Bethany's phone, credit cards, etc.
    February 1, 2011 (Tue) ~ Bethany was to have moved out of her apartment (unsure whether lease was up or eviction or what)
    February 2, 2011 (Wed) ~ Emile leaves to return to Afghanistan
    February 19, 2011 ~ Bethany's family reports her missing
    March 1, 2011 ~ LE performs search of woods near Bethany's apartment complex
     
  20. TripleA

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    So here it is for me:

    Husband leaves 3-4 days after the last time anyone sees Bethany but does not report her missing?
    Husband leaves for Afganistan and Bethany doesn't see him off for the deployment but noone finds that strange enough to report?
    Family does not see or hear from Bethany for weeks even though they are caring for her young son, but noone finds that strange enough to even look into with a visit?
    Bethany is 5 months pregnant on top of all of the above and noone was hypervigilant at all about her well-being?

    This does not add up IMO.

    ETA: I am not necessarily accusing the husband, I just figure that there has to be much more to those last few days. Maybe a split? Maybe she took off with someone else? Maybe she is still with someone else right now. Maybe a doctor's appt that showed a different due date? Etc... There must be some reason why noone acted sooner, they must have thought she was just cooling off somewhere.
     

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