My Mother had an annoying habit whenever one of us criticized someone else. She'd ask us to imagine ourselves in exactly the same circumstances, exactly the same...and then try to understand how that feels...and then say how, under those circumstances...we'd have done things differently. Criticizing is easy. Not so easy if these things are happening to YOU or someone you love. Some posters seem to feel that Kaine should not be "airing Terri's dirty laundry"...that he handled the Murder for Hire response badly. Fair enough. But I'm interested in exactly WHAT they think Kaine should have done after LE told him of the Murder For Hire Plot. I'd like to ask everyone to imagine this: find a place where you can actually get inside this case...for me, I'm going to pretend I'm Kaine's Mother. Kyron and Baby K are my grandchildren. Now, I don't know what the real relationship between the real grandparents and these children are...but I'm just trying to feel the emotions. Maybe others of you can just look at your kids in the room tonight. We just need to walk a mile in the shoes of someone who loves Kyron and Baby K. Then approach Kaine's actions from THAT standpoint. I'm interested to hear what some of you think needed to change. Now, imagining myself as Kyron's grandparent, I would first...be beside myself in agony and fear! What has happened? Then, a short time into the investigation... my son calls...LE has told him that my daughter-in-law tried to have him killed! The same daughter-in-law that was among the last to see Kyron! The daughter-in-law who is telling us she failed the polys! The daughter-in-law who cannot account completely for her time! This daughter-in-law has access, care of, and parental control over my only other grandchild. Let me walk a mile in those shoes. So, if I'm honest what do I tell Kaine to do? This is not the guy at the McDonald's counter telling him this..it is LE. My only other grandchild...Kaine's only other child is missing! Now I hear my daughter-in-law wanted my son dead!!! Should I say...STAY THERE, BELIEVE YOUR WIFE..let her take care of our precious Baby K...leave home every day and leave Baby K with her for hours. Sleep in her bed. Do NOT protect yourself. Be a devoted husband! Sorry,no...I would NOT. Protecting Terri, under these circumstances, is my lowest priority. Those kids are what matters! And my son's life. I would beg him to leave and do whatever he had to do to get Baby K and himself to a safe place. How would I live with myself if I encouraged Kaine and Baby K to stay "to protect Terri's reputation" and, God forbid something else happened? I applaud that Kaine did whatever necessary to protect Baby K in light of that information from LE. But maybe others feel Terri should have been everyone's first concern. If you or someone YOU love, in these horrific conditions,with your son missing... were told by the police that your spouse tried to have you killed...what would YOU do? What would you have had Kaine do? I'm interested to hear alternatives.