I have been an RN for 19 years now. I have cared for many patients, in many situations, different settings, with many diagnosis. Cancer is a scary word, even a scarier diagnosis. Stage 4 cancer, is the worst diagnosis that is ever given. http://www.cancerandcareers.org/wom...r_diagnosis/?gclid=CMSRgr7Y66QCFcFk7AodPDVa1w Here is a little information. Cancer is not influenced by wealth, power or social standing. It strikes everyone. White, black, Hispanic, Jew, gentile. There are no known people who are not ever struck by cancer. I have worked with literally thousands of cancer patients. Pediatric to elderly patients. Usually, there will at first be fear and anger at the diagnosis stage. After this is worked through, if the patient lives long enough, it means treatment. Treatment is often harsh, but it brings hope. The next stage, if a person is lucky enough to go into remission, is a feeling of relief, a fear of reoccurrence and a new appreciation of life, loved ones and the gift of additional time. Patsy had been through stage 4 cancer. At the time of Jon Benet's death, she had made peace with many things in her life. Did she enjoy the fact that her daughter wet the bed, or messed her pants? No, there isn't a parent alive who would enjoy that. Would Patsy kill Jon Benet over that? I could never believe that. She spent time with her children. I am sure more so with Jon Benet, but I haven't ever read about Burke being abused by Patsy. Maybe he didn't get The lavish attention, the same as his sister, I'm sure he was jealous, but I don't feel he was abused. I've read that Patsy spent a lot of time on the second floor, playing with the children. To Patsy, I have a strong feeling she knew she was living on borrowed time. That makes life and those people in your life precious. This also means that if she lost her baby, her only girl, her beauty queen, spitfire, ball of energy, that she would be crushed, devastated and willing to do almost anything to 'save' the remaining people she loves. They are her legacy and will carry her forward in their memories. This may sound mushy and over dramatic, but after 19 years of patient care, family members and friends who have died of cancer, I have seen how it changes people, how it makes them value life. I apologize for the length of this post. Even after so many words I am not sure that I explained my feelings adequately. I just see Patsy, capable of doing anything as a mama she bear to defend the child she has left, help cover up a crime she is up to her eyeballs in, by writing the ransom letter, but I will never believe that she herself killed Jon Benet.