My family have always thought I was a bit... Dark. And, let's face it, my interest in true crime novels, stories, podcasts, and other media doesn't help my image with them. No matter how many times I explain that my interest lies in the human behavioral aspect, they always shake their heads (collectively) and look at me with more than a tinge of fear. Therefore, I am always very grateful for this community - I know most of you actually get it and understand. Any murder is terrible and when the victim is a child, it is particularly horrific. But this one... Damn. Something about that face. Beautiful and exuberant and smart Lily. This one has been very tough - and reading about her family and the monster who did this. For some reason, I find the nature of this crime almost too much to bear.
I am an educator - teacher, Dean, and administrator. And I love, love middle school! Something about the age and how so many believe how difficult it is - I just dig it - it is the age that I feel (personally), I can do the most good. I run into lots of students and lots of family dynamics - many are excellent, but always, always - I hear the same response when I have to speak to family members about an issue, "no, not my child" or "you have him/her confused with someone else" and of course (this one is particularly unnerving), "I know my child and he/she would NEVER do that. He/she just doesn't have it in him/her.
I just need to share this... We don't know. We want to think we know, but we don't. And if there ever was a reminder, this case should prove we do not. I realize the offender was born and brought up with some nightmare situations - but it isn't just that. And I am certain many adults said "not this kid" as well. Believe me, we all want to believe we know what people will do - especially family members (this goes for adults as well) - but more and more I have become CERTAIN there are some things we just can't see the kids we love doing... I am not trying to be negative here or judgmental in any way - I am just trying to say... Everyone needs to be aware that no matter how much we want to, we simply cannot know or predict what certain people will do. Perhaps if we listened to each other and worked in conjuction - horrible and awful things (like what happened to Lily) will not happen as much.
Again, not trying to compare anyone or blame or even predict - just trying to understand and help. This is, of course, all my own opinion. Wishing Lily peace and all my fellow Websleuths-ers love and happiness.