At the expense of the taxpayers of Utah and the lives of well-meaning police officers who were wringing their hands about how to help this young couple without giving them criminal records? JMO, but I think fund-raising would be a better way to fund awareness-raising campaigns.
I'm certain that if LE had arrested either one of them it would not have prevented Gabby's death. JMO.
RBBM
That female on male domestic violence is common? I see it a lot in the Courts. It is a sad reality and it used to never be reported. Times are changing fortunately. No person, male or female, adult or child deserves to be abused. And it doesn't matter if the abuser is a lot smaller than the victim.
My understanding is abuse of males by partners, male or female, and sexual abuse by males, often in positions of authority imo, is not reported as often as it happens due to fear of others knowing, possible embarrassment, blaming themselves, worries about their sexuality etc. But female on male is not very common in comparison imo. Not going to post as fact with a link, this is jmo/jme and what I will post.
True, but an abuser isn't going to be the one crying real tears, which tells me right there who was the aggressor- Brian. He coldly stood there and told police that she was the one who had mental problems, while he was the one who took her phone and locked her out of the van. It was obvious to me immediately who had started this fight.
I had a case about a year ago, boyfriend was smacked around good by drunk girlfriend (not uncommon). Neighbors called police. Fortunately this was largely caught on a neighbor's Ring camera. She calls him a , and lots of other vile things as she hit and kicked at him. He grabbed her wrists several times to try to stop her from hitting him. When the officers arrived, she turned on the water works and showed the red on her arms he was arrested and she went and got a restraining order on him from his own home. We were able to get the charges dropped and restraining order thrown out. But if it hadn't been for that video.......
If Gabby hadn't been murdered, her parents would have no standing to sue the city of Moab. That would rest with Gabby.
RSBM
I'm not saying that females don't assault males, but in this case it was clear that Gabby's tears were real, not "waterworks turned on for the police", and the Moab officers still didn't believe that Gabby was the victim. She also blamed herself, which is something that an abused woman does, not an aggressor. Also, there were eyewitnesses who called in him slapping her- not "restraining her from hitting him".
Of course, the officers should have known about what the 911 caller said. No matter what the law enforcement issue might be, not giving officers in the field any information that could be needed during their investigation is wrong and potentially dangerous.
Sorry, I'll rephrase for clarity. Did you mean women abuse men in hetero interpersonal relationships just as much as men abuse women?
I completely agree. DV victims, especially young ones, tend to downplay this behavior. This is where friends and relatives need to step in and let the victim know that this is not ok and that it will escalate.
Yes, female abuse of males is common, but only recently does it seem to be coming out of the shadows. Most of the time it's something not too abusive -- a slap, a pinch, a punch in the arm. Women have been able to get by with that for decades, and Hollywood even played it up in old movies, such as Gone With the Wind. The heroine righteously slaps the cheeky male.
