- Feb 9, 2020
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I got the impression that they both started out sharing the vanlife vision (at least in substance). It has occurred to me, though, that there may have been a source of strife/tension that developed as GP gained her footing in the influencer world — a factor that could potentially explain some of BL’s lack of support and even possible resentment, hostility. (IMO, this would be on top of the main factors: behavioral and psychological concerns, likely exacerbated by being indefinitely “trapped in close quarters” with one another and being somewhat cut off from their usual support networks.)
I scrolled through GP’s Insta again last night. Comments were “limited”, which is not uncommon… But what I did find uncommon is that I noticed no males gushing about GP’s looks or hitting on her. A handful of females called her “beautiful”, etc., and two or more other accounts asked her to DM them to discuss collaboration opportunities—but that was it. Seeing how many people jumped into her comments after her disappearance hit the news, it’s clear one only has to follow to be allowed to post. So any garden variety SM wannabe Cassanova (I’m being polite here) could have followed her to share their range of “flattering” to disgusting opinions (as they do, especially when there’s some skin exposed, like in the beach pics, etc.). I didn’t see ONE. Might any “male gaze” comments have been removed—even the inoffensive ones? I also noticed—and this could be nothing more than an influencer’s stab at a new approach to crafting content—but many of the most recent posts (starting in July or August?) start mentioning (more than mentioning—almost lauding, venerating?) BL. Gushing about his bare feet, etc… Of course, it’s his account name that is used, not his given name, which makes perfect sense if she’s just trying to boost his exposure (and he had been tagging her a lot in his own posts—or, rather, at the ends of his posts, which is also common).
I’m probably guilty of reading into things because of what is known and suspected now. But whether or not comments were policed or content explicitly crafted to include BL, I do believe online fans, specifically online dudes, could have been stoking BL’s jealousy and triggering increased possessiveness. After all, it’s the kind of thing that can cause jealous feelings and arguments in healthier relationships than theirs…
For starters, i do believe that jealousy is such a mean mistress--and was controlling Brian more and more..........
I sense they were on the same plane as they built out the van, and planned their maps of place to visit.
I know we know whose life and dreams were destroyed here, and by whom, but the difficulties leading up had to be shared.
Sometimes, I think we still need to make Gabby "perfect" when there is no such thing in a relationship.
But as her interests to build her blogs, and he was still more into the travelling aspects of this adventure.... I can just see what was building up between them.
Geez... I can remember when my dear husband would get upset when I was reading a book for too many hours... when he wanted me to be with him!! On one hand, one could see that he was just being selfish, because he wanted me to be talking and being with him. But I was just wanting to be with my book, and NOT be with him... I guess I could be being a bit selfish too. There are always two sides.
I actually think Gabby was struggling with getting this blogging stuff off the ground, and felt she had to put more and more time into the mechanics.
Online blogging and picture posting can be a very egocentric thing.....AND when you are only projecting "perfection" and "love" that to an invisible audience.... AND THEN when you stop videoing or taking pictures......... you fight. AND if Gabby was having to walk on eggshells constantly because of the growing jealousies....... oh God...
I just don't think either one of them knew how to deal with this........