Bobbisangel
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GrannyConnie . . . my daughter is due to give birth to her son any day. She fled So Cal three months ago to get away from her abusive boyfriend.
Your story wrenches all our hearts . . . and for me, it fills me with a terrible forboding. This young lady, my daughter, will want to marry and date. She's already established a "pattern" of hooking up with crappy men.
Already this little unborn boy is all I can think about . . . I will provide him and his mommy a home for as long as they are willing to stay .. . . and that's all I can do. What else can I do to "prevent" my daughter from choosing a jackass to assuage her loneliness? Not much, I'm afraid . . . but love her, and pray.
You will be in my prayers, as will your daughter. Of all people, she needs them most. She has to live with the consequences of choosing, and then staying with a horrible "male" who tossed off red flags right and left, that he was dangerous and cruel.
Having been myself the victim of an abusive man for seven years, I know that I too saw my ex's red flags . . . but I didn't know what they meant. I didn't exactly seek to know, either. Even though I did not deserve or cause a single SECOND of the abuse I endured, I still remain responsible for my choice to NOT take care of myself, NOT value myself enough to come to my own rescue.
The price your girl is paying for not valuing her own, or her son's life enough is the worst nightmare. I'm so sorry. I pray for your peace, and for justice for Brandon.
I know exactly what you mean about your daughter. I have a daughter who is remarried now but inbetween marriages she just couldn't be without a man around and did she ever pick the losers. I also have a 23 yr old granddaughter who has a beautiful little year old daughter who just can't stand to be alone. I swear she grabs the first guy that comes along because they have all been losers. She is a beautiful girl and could have her pick but she doesn't shop around and find a nice stable young man. I worry about her and her little girl. That baby is my pride and joy and I would just die if anything ever happened to her.
I feel really bad for Granny. I lost my youngest daughter to domestic violence and there is nothing worse then losing a child and I doubt losing a grandchild is any different. It sounds like the boyfriend is the one who beat the baby to death. Someone did. I wonder if he had a history of being abusive. I think Granny said that her daughter had planned on leaving him. I just wish all women would take their time about getting to know the guys they meet. Date them but don't live with them. Give the relationship time enough to see what he is really like. Meet his friends...people who really know him. And keep the guys away from the kids until you know the guy has no history of violence and until you have dated for a good while. I guess there are just some people who don't feel complete without a male in their lives or something. I keep telling my granddaughter I'm going to find a good guy for her. I'm keeping my eyes and ears open..lol.