I totally agree. I have said before that I think JonBenet's desire to be involved in pageants was perhaps from her realizing, consciously or unconsciously, that it was the greatest source of love, attention, acceptance, and validation she could get from her maternal family members.
I doubt she was as interested in doing the pageants as much as she was interested in pleasing her mom, grandma, and aunt and being a part of the pageant world all three of them felt was so important for a girl to be a success. She certainly must have noticed how all of the time spent on lessons and rehearsals for all the various things (gymnastics, piano, violin, French, dancing and singing) plus photo shoots, parades, and non-pageant performances (like how she danced and sang for the whole school until she went home exhausted) etc was eating into her free time to just be a kid.
She had the workload, stressload, and responsibility level of an adult at only six years old...no wonder she wet her pants every day and night. She couldn't keep up with the dreams Patsy had for her, and Patsy, in her love of the pageant world, didn't even see that JonBenet was being overworked. That, IMO, is the reason Patsy's friends were planning an intervention with Patsy about the "mega JonBenet thing."