I don't want to attack any poster, but I would like to make a statement. In working with many families of missing, I am hoping that some will take this to heart: Sorry for such a long post.
Do you really think at the onset of having your child, whom you love, abducted from your home... and the media and public are crucifying you...calling you a child abuser, and insinuating that you murdered your child...and foremost the absolute terrifying fear of not knowing where your child is ....that you would be sitting around making buttons??? Let's not forget the first 3-5 days he was being interrogated by police, multiple agencies..multiple interrogations...and all with the hopes that while he is undergoing these interrogations that any moment someone will come through the door with your baby...yet, it amazes me that the public expects that he is to be on NG and every morning talk show? Trista has the opportunity to do that as she was not at the scene and not at the house and we all know the media was widespread. Justin's main priority was/is in working with PD to have and provide whatever is necessary. Now that days have gone by, and he has said himself 'he sees the media has gone away"...and with the support of the LRC, he now has composure to do media interviews.
The public has far too many expectations from those who are terrified and in grief and fear. Don't you think they know the statistics? These people shift from hope to terrifying fears to hope to fears. Do you know what that does to a human body with endorphins running amuck?
If you had a loved one pass away suddenly by a tragic car accident, are you going to go straight to your computer and start designing their memorial card for the funeral? (buttons) Are you going to call the newspaper and give their obituary? (interviews) No. Why not? Because you are grieving and someone else steps forward to help the family. This is no different...fact is, this is even harder as you add the public scrutiny on top of all the PD interrogations and it amazes me that ANY parent is able to come out and talk after a few weeks...let alone days. A parent crying on television is not going to find their child. There is enough sensationalism behind the horror of placing a child to bed only to have him/her missing by morning that it is enough to draw the public to their televisions. Fact is...many people cannot handle seeing another traumatized and may even tune out. I can tell you my husband immediately changes the channels when someone is crying out for a missing loved one, or a crime committed against their loved one, or a soldiers family that has just learned their loved one died overseas. Somewhere in all this folks need to try not to be so "finger-pointing" and as an alternative...sleuthing about hypothetical. But to diagnose someones actions as if they are guilty or innocent is unfair.
