Novice Seeker
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Thank you everyone for your wonderful warm welcomes. I have been reading several of the post on this case, and I have to say I am so impressed with everyone's analogies. I find truth in a lot of the post and they give me a lot to think about. I have came to the right website that has very intelligent insightful post.
As far as GA and CA I believe personally there was some very extreme dynamics going on under their roof. GA and CA have a lot to do with creating a monster. They never held KC responsible for her actions, in fact just the opposite. Time and time again over the years the lies, the cover ups, everything pointing to a very dysfunctional household to the extreme. I believe GA being in the household for all these years, just sits back and lets it happen, all the while CA is molding a little "mini me" in KC (someone who believes their own lies) if you keep saying it long enough, it will be true in their world. GA eventually also wants to believe all the lies and bull$#%^ floating around that household, even though he knows what the truth is. GA has been in the household long enough to know how to play along with everything (it's so much easier to go along with the lies) then to call CA or KC out on the carpet. There is a peace you have when you deny and choose not to confront, it is so much easier, GA is taking the easy way out. Now CA really believes her own lies, she will never admit responsibility for how KC turned out or that her daughter KC actually murdered her granddaughter, she is so deep in her denial and lies, it now becomes her true reality and she will never face the truth ....ever, its the only way her mental state will survive and right now it's survival of the fittest in that household. As far as GA, he knows what the true reality is (that KC killed Caylee) but chooses to believe otherwise. You have to understand him, he MUST believe the lies and what his wife say's and what KC say's or else.........he will crack.... and one day I think he will. I don't know when it will be, but he's going to crack, he's not going to be able to hack it. He does not have the mental stamina that CA has.
Welcome aboard and ITA. There are some awesome posters on here. Not a day goes by that I don't learn something new....
Here are my thoughts about this family's psychological functioning. What you described is considered enabling. This form of behavior is commonly seen in individuals from alcoholic homes, broken homes, overbearing authority. All of these examples causes a person to believe he/she is inferior, unworthy. All this person has ever known is conflict and the best survival is to hide...
IMO no one is this family exhibits any of these traits.
George has strong narcisstic traits. Read some of his interviews with LE. George's time in LE up in Ohio, his description of family members especially those with money. His description of his father's car business. Read about his explaination for recently starting a new job during the time period ICA was originally arrested. His resume's are full of "me, me, me". George also has no problem with being deceitful. Remember the financial trouble George got into with the internet? This particular trait is a classic symptom of an anti-social personality. As for environmental factors I suspect George grew up with parents who were goal oriented, success driven and perhaps one or both parents were domineering but that's just my opinion only.
Cindy also exhibits narcisstic traits but also rigidity, and self-rightous. She also seems to be extremly selfish and superficial. For example, when you or I do something to help another person whether it be money, groceries, clothes or whatever we don't hold it against that person, we don't go around flaunting it saying "see what I did for him/her? aint I just wonderful". And we don't use our generosity as a weapon to control or dictate the lives of someone else. Appearance is everything to Cindy which is often seen when she attempts to defend ICA's actions. The need to be in control or manipulate is as important as oxygen to her which is often used as a shield for some deep fear. Of what I can't say. Her mother appears to be the complete opposite of Cindy. However, just from reading some of the email exchanges between Cindy and a brother there may be some hints of familiar traits but Cindy's anger and denial about ICA was so strong that my brain couldn't handle anything else. Remember this is just my opinion except for the part about my brain.
So, now look at the behaviors we've seen ICA exhibit. Does any of them look familiar?
BUT REMEMBER THESE ARE ONLY MY OPINIONS AND THOUGHTS FROM YEARS OF BEING EXPOSED TO THESE PERSONALITIES.
Novice Seeker
PS: My apologies for the long delay with this response. Why the family just can't be happy with a peanut butter sandwich is beyond me. :maddening: