Iagree with you. I don't think Misty was necessarily spoiled, (there wasn't much to spoil with), while growing up, but I do think she was 'babied', & learned to use this to manipulate people. There probably wasn't much food in their house, so she learned that saying, 'I'm hungry', got attention, so she still uses it to get sympathy. Donna Brock said that's one of the reasons Misty would call her, & Misty used it again, in a jailhouse call to her mom. When Misty & Ron were fighting @ GGS, Misty called her dad & brother & they both jumped to her rescue'. But then, she turned around & lied, & even put a restraining order against her brother. but no hard feelings, because she later dropped it, so she could move back home. So yes, I'd say that Misty is used to being babied.
Hi Dodie, I'm jumping off your post. Not picking on the use of the word "spoiled" from back in the thread!
I thought about this thread in regards to MC last night before bed.
Here is what I came up with in what I think about MC:
1. In my mind I see her childhood as one that was probably without structure (a time for everything, meals at a certain time, bedtime at a certain time, the child can expect what will be the next day based on today it provides a sense of security).
2. A possible childhood with no boundries, expectations that many of us place on our own children weren't place on her (you must do your homework, if you can't I will sit with you and help you, you must pick up after yourself...etc to name a few).
3. I don't think she was probably disciplined. Let me clarify please: I, myself, do not consider a swat on the hand or butt discipline. I'm talking about teaching a child self discipline, guiding them to allow them to make age-appropriate choices for themselves by helping the to understand the consequences of the choices. Slowly teaching them to evaluate a situation and make their own decision about that situation. That takes more than 18 yrs LOL. I don't think that MC got that lesson.
4. To tie into #3 we know that there is a good chance her Mother (and father?) were using drugs when she was a young child. IMHO the relationship between a Parent who is using/abusing drugs and a child is one where the Parent isn't present, and in the moment. There can't be a solid connection even if that parent is interacting with the child while sober/not high.
It can skew the child's perception of connection and attachment to others. . A lot of the times they don't know what a normal relationship is...IMHO
5. As for her being babied, it's possible she was by her GM because she was the youngest and had such a hard life. Her parents babied her because she is the youngest and only girl and it's through their permissiveness that she was babied. Not spoiled but left to her own devices. Making choices for herself that were completely age inappropraite (dropping out of school, living with her bro's. etc).
What I think we have is pretty much a child (now young adult) that never had structure, guidence, was never taught self discipline in addition to living in an extraordinarily dysfunctional family. Drugs, no boundries...the list goes on.
The end result? We have a manipulative, self centered (her needs must be met and she was taught she and only she could meet those needs in whichever way worked for her) young adult who doesn't know how to connect to others in such a way that is what we consider normal. In other words it is IMHO we have a personality disordered young lady. Add to all of the above that she herself uses drugs.
(don't get me started on the rest of the family and RC and his! LOL)
