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OK, I just went to read the actual article. I'm having a hard time believing this was an accident.
Yeah, that's not good.
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OK, I just went to read the actual article. I'm having a hard time believing this was an accident.
OK, I just went to read the actual article. I'm having a hard time believing this was an accident.
This child didn't die which could be the difference, but still...it does point out how much it varies upon prosecution of such an offense.
Tulsa County prosecutors say they will not charge a woman who left her one-month-old son in a hot car earlier this year. The child was left in a locked car outside an Owasso business with the window rolled up in August. Temperatures at the time were 104 degrees.
http://kotv.com/news/local/story/?id=138606
hours before dying in her car, Ashly Duchene's 17-month-old son smiled at her as she looked at him through her rearview mirror.
But for some reason, when Duchene, 22, arrived at work Tuesday morning, she forgot about Ryan's happy face and left him in her Honda Civic for seven hours while she waited tables at Hooters. She now faces charges of neglient homicide.
Seriously,
The baby this article discusses did die.
Well I can admit to not being the perfect mother. I am a single parent to 3 children ages 3,4 and 9. The childcare centre the 2 youngest attend is slap bang in the middle of our house and where I work. About 2 weeks ago I was 3/4 of the way to work when my son piped up from the back seat "Where are we going mum?".... oopps.... turned around and took them to childcare. It scared me! Because they could have so easily not said anything. And when I got to work I could have been out of the car in 2 seconds flat without it even occuring to me that I had left them in the car. Yes my mind was on other things, and as much as it sucks I can easily see how this could happen. It's not that I don't think about them, because I constantly do, but we often do things in a routine, without thinking, so sometimes when we miss a step we don't even realise.
I will also put my hand up to leaving the iron on, leaving the oven on, leaving a bath tap running, leaving the front door wide open, forgetting to feed my kids breakfast and a whole list of other things. Because when we do these things we often have a routine we adhere to, so if we do one thing different, we may miss a step.
Great post - I really agree with the last line.
The young mother in this case had just gotten her child back after the child had been with its grands for a few weeks - she was definitely out of the routine.
Not me - the article portrays a confused young mother who is struggling with the dificulties of raising a young child, but loves him and can't stand the thought of not seeing him every day.
ETA: A good tip is to always leave something like your purse, lunch, briefcase, etc on the floor of the car in front of the baby. That way you'll always be drawn to the back seat before walking away from the car.
Well I can admit to not being the perfect mother. I am a single parent to 3 children ages 3,4 and 9. The childcare centre the 2 youngest attend is slap bang in the middle of our house and where I work. About 2 weeks ago I was 3/4 of the way to work when my son piped up from the back seat "Where are we going mum?".... oopps.... turned around and took them to childcare. It scared me! Because they could have so easily not said anything. And when I got to work I could have been out of the car in 2 seconds flat without it even occuring to me that I had left them in the car. Yes my mind was on other things, and as much as it sucks I can easily see how this could happen. It's not that I don't think about them, because I constantly do, but we often do things in a routine, without thinking, so sometimes when we miss a step we don't even realise.
I will also put my hand up to leaving the iron on, leaving the oven on, leaving a bath tap running, leaving the front door wide open, forgetting to feed my kids breakfast and a whole list of other things. Because when we do these things we often have a routine we adhere to, so if we do one thing different, we may miss a step.
Well I can admit to not being the perfect mother. I am a single parent to 3 children ages 3,4 and 9. The childcare centre the 2 youngest attend is slap bang in the middle of our house and where I work. About 2 weeks ago I was 3/4 of the way to work when my son piped up from the back seat "Where are we going mum?".... oopps.... turned around and took them to childcare. It scared me! Because they could have so easily not said anything. And when I got to work I could have been out of the car in 2 seconds flat without it even occuring to me that I had left them in the car. Yes my mind was on other things, and as much as it sucks I can easily see how this could happen. It's not that I don't think about them, because I constantly do, but we often do things in a routine, without thinking, so sometimes when we miss a step we don't even realise.
I will also put my hand up to leaving the iron on, leaving the oven on, leaving a bath tap running, leaving the front door wide open, forgetting to feed my kids breakfast and a whole list of other things. Because when we do these things we often have a routine we adhere to, so if we do one thing different, we may miss a step.
There seems to be a huge disparity in the ways these types of cases are handled - with people on the lower end of the socio-economic system bearing the harshest punishments.
My prayers for this overwhelmed young mother.
Very well said Sadie. Makes me sick I can not even say how I really feel about this person. Sorry but to me she isnt a mother or a woman. MOOI have noticed in some of the threads about it here also. It seems to be more "accidental" when the parent/s are middle/upper class, than if a poor single mom does it. I can understand where the mother has NO daycare and takes the baby to work, it's no way accidental the child was left in the car.
I guess what really ticks me off: The Father "offered" to take full responsibility and care for the child, but the mother "put her wants" and needs first.
She must have told people she was overwhelmed, that she was stressed, but did she do what was in the best interest of the baby. She "could not stand the thought" of not seeing him everyday that is why the Dad did not "get full custody" even though he offered. Well look at how this ended up.
Again, yet another case of a child paying with their life, because of a a parents "mistake".
I couldn't agree more. What about the principal awhile back that left her two year old in the car all day. Her priority that day was getting donuts to her co-workers instead of her child. I'm trying to remember all the details about it, but I do remember she wasn't charged. :furious: