Well, I'm thinking that if you BOTH had planned the murder and a life together afterwards, you would BOTH deny a relationship.
This, as much as anything, casts huge suspicion on Mrs. Sneiderman. If she had NOT partaken in any advance planning, why the hello would she not then be traumatized, terrified, and screaming in words and actions for protection from a man deranged enough to murder?
I go as far as saying I believe several times Hemy even 'backed off' from squeezing the trigger and AS, in frustration, manipulated him back to the edge of madness. I think she thought, either way, Hemy caught or not, she had nothing to lose. Which doesn't say much for her brand of 'love' or ability to empathize, feel remorse, or any other sign of humanity.
So...... If this is true, there HAD to have been signs of her true nature over the years. Where are the friends from her youth and college days, former coworkers, former love interests, etc., and when will they start speaking out? In retrospect, there are ALWAYS signs that people shrugged off. We've seen it over and over and over on the cases here at Websleuths.
ETA: and her parents insisting she was the PERFECT child was a HUGE red flag. It reminded me of the enabling parental style of Scott Peterson's parents.
Hi all. I've been lurking for a long time, but I want to weigh in a bit since OneLove asked about friends from AS and RS's college days. I was one of Rusty's friends from those days. I spent a lot of time with them at Indiana University, and while I thought Rusty was a funny, often goofy, sweet guy I could never warm up to Andrea (though I tried bc we had a lot of friends in common, Rusty especially). Here's what I can tell you from those times-
1- She is a perfectionist to the extreme. Appearances are everything to her. It was VERY important to her that Rusty was Harvard-bound for business school. She mentioned it frequently after he was admitted to Harv. Business School.
2- She viewed herself as a "good girl," involved with charitable causes and religious activities. I always felt that she was trying to appear to be "sweet" but wasn't. I thought she was judgmental. I can't put my finger on why. I am an outgoing type with a lot of female (and some male) friends, never had trouble making friends. Whenever I hung out with Rusty & Andrea there was a disconnect with her.
3- Another poster here on WS asked why Rusty was into Andrea at all. At that time, to be honest she was a lot less harsh-looking and prettier, and as I mentioned she did her best to seem very very sweet. Rusty was a total mommy and daddy's boy (in a good way- he adored his folks!), and they were delighted he was with a nice sweet Jewish girl.
Andrea fit VERY well into Rusty's world- a sweet, uncomplicated, nice-looking girl who laughed at his jokes (and he joked a lot). What I don't think Rusty saw was that she laughed ONLY at his jokes, was sweet mainly when he was around, and with other people she was different... she never seemed interested in someone unless they could help her in some way. I had such a great time in college, always hanging out with friends, and unless Rusty was there Andrea was never really smiley or nice. When he was around she was gaga-smiley.
4- I ran into Andrea & Rusty at a restaurant years after college while he was in business school at Harvard. I had not kept in touch with them, though we had friends in common so I knew generally how they were doing and what they were up to through those friends. Rusty was all smiles and hello and catching up. She was silent. I started feeling weird talking to them, so I said goodbye after a little while. Normally I would have at least talked for a while or asked for an email address to catch up more (this was pre-Facebook). Her silence made me feel like I was intruding and unwelcome.
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My take on Andrea's involvement in Rusty's murder is that she definitely had a full blown affair with him, and from day one has been trying to cover it up. I don't think that she would have wanted Rusty killed. This would never fit into her perfect life that she had set up for herself. I have read (wish I could remember where) that LE neglected to have the phone company save her texts and she deleted more than 1000 of them immediately and those texts are gone.
She has really hurt herself by not just confessing to the affair. Rusty's parents are so wonderful (I have met them several times), I am sure that a confession to them that she cheated would NEVER come out of her mouth. She is going to the wall to deny deny deny that affair.
Now that I am older I realize Andrea is most likely a narcissist. But I highly doubt she is a murderer. And I have NO love for her, believe me. I think all of these inconsistencies are about denying the affair at all costs.
Just my impressions, since you asked! :seeya: