From what I understand, this whole fiasco began with Megan being cruel to Sarah. What a more mature mother, centered on adult behaviors would have done is counsel Sarah to distance herself from Megan and develop other friendships, perhaps setting up a couple very fun pizza parties/slumber parties/whateverisfun stuff with her daughter and neutral or new friends, and advise her not to associate anymore with Megan, who was cruelly sabotaging her.
Any normal parent would work to help their daughter. The thing is the hoax was planned months after Megan taunted Sarah. More than likely, they would of made amends and became friends again. Drew likely harbors grudges and they fester over time. The insult was being called a "Lesbian", not being called "fat", which makes me think Drew maybe a closeted homosexual and is in deep denial about it, like Fred Phelps. I think Drew and Phelps look alike in their appearance.
Instead she acted like a 13 year old and schemed a way to find out what Megan was saying about Sarah, behind her back. That immature behavior came out again, in this letter to Megan's parents. A normal mother would have written a very simple note expressing grief and compassion, and left it at that. instead it's a let's get together because everyone's mad at me. Mothers who live through their daughters are odd characters. And destructive.
She is really immature, acts like an overgrown teenager. Yes, parents who live through their children are nuts. Sadly, there are many parents like that. Lori Drew is a textbook example of a toxic person. This caught my attention.
Three summers ago, Christine Buckles, 38, was thrilled when a young family moved into the brick-fronted ranch house next door to hers on Waterford Crystal Drive in Dardenne Prairie, Missouri. But shortly after, Christine was unsettled when the mother, Lori, began to bad-mouth her daughter's best friend, Megan, blaming her for problems between the girls. Both tweens were slightly overweight, and when they started dieting, Lori broadcast the news, saying her daughter would lose more weight than Megan, even though it was obvious to Christine that Megan was slimming down faster. Christine didn't blame Megan at all when, during the summer of 2006, she stopped wanting to spend much time with Lori's daughter.
http://www.oprah.com/relationships/Involved-Parents-The-Supermom-Phenomenon-by-Amanda-Robb
She is motivated by revenge for her daughter. That is why I find Lori Drew similar to Osama bin Laden, Seung-Hui Cho, Charles Manson, or Adolf Hitler in that regard. No offense to anyone affected by them as many lost their life in these horrific acts that are beyond comprehension. Like them, Drew was driven by revenge against perceived wrongs. On the other hand, they were megalomaniacs with "god complex" and consumed by extreme paranoia. Drew is paranoid, but not a megalomaniac.
An aside, I still don't know why the 18 year old employee who actually WROTE the offending note to Megan has been ignored in all this. While I would never want to have Lori for a friend, I don't think she caused Megan's suicide. I do think she never matured past middle school thought processes.
I can't say why Ashley Grills was ignored. Perhaps, it was Drew who wanted revenge and Grills did most of the dirty work. Lori Drew likes to manipulate dependent and disturbed people like Ashley Grills. Grills is depressed and psychotic possibly has avoidant, dependent, borderline, and schizotypal personality disorder. Grills reminds me of Dylan Klebold, Mary Hamer, Susan Smith, Luke Woodham, or Molly Wei. They are easily influence and volatile. However, Klebold had a "god complex" and was more independent, while Woodham had weird beliefs. She likes comes from a dysfunctional family from what I have noticed. The Grills got foreclosed on and have been at court many times.
http://www.millon.net/taxonomy/avoidant.htm
http://www.millon.net/taxonomy/dependent.htm
http://www.millon.net/taxonomy/schizotypal.htm
If Drew did not harass Meier, she likely would of not committed suicide and be alive, but that is besides the point. I suspect Lori Drew has borderline, narcissistic, and histrionic personality disorder and is a psychopath. She is highly narcissistic, volatile, paranoid, and has a distorted image of herself. She is deeply insecure and consumed by self-hatred. I wonder about her childhood was like and I think she had troubled relationship with her parents and brother. She likely leaves a trail of destruction and has history of estrangement. I also suspect her parents are probably very religious and have noticed people like her come from fanatically religious parents.
http://www.millon.net/taxonomy/borderline.htm
http://www.millon.net/taxonomy/narcissistic.htm
http://www.millon.net/taxonomy/histrionic.htm
Ashley Grills is most likely:
Phobic Avoidant
Disquieted Dependent
Accommodating Dependent
Discourage Borderline
Lori Drew is most likely:
Elitist Narcissist
Compensatory Narcissist
Tempestuous Histrionic
Infantile Histrionic
Petulant Borderline
Self-Destructive Borderline
Impulsive Borderline
http://www.millon.net/taxonomy/summary.htm