It sounds almost like because it is "common" in Europe somehow (in this case) must be justified, I do not think so at all. Her "mentality" as you call it resulted in the DISAPPEARANCE of her three year old child, let's PLEASE not forget that. Really? It seems like you see her as a "victim" when the only victim I see here is Madeleine whose because of irresponsible parents ended up...well...who knows where! The Mc Canns will ONLY pay for their negligence when they are charged for negligence. Sure but in this case we have a MISSING child, are you going to make an eye blind there? Yes, people make DUMB choices DAILY but when those choices AFFECT OTHER people, in this case a toddler they MUST be held accountable.
Her mentality helped someone take her child, there is actually a difference, and you still don't see, to get that. The person who took her child is the one who is culpable. Did her and her husband's choice to leave their children alone make that crime easier? Of course it did. How has she not been held responsible for that? As far as I know, that action on her part, as wrong as it seems now, IS something that people do all the time, and what you don't get is that - until this happened, they didn't see the harm. Stupid? Obviously. A crime in Portugal? Nope. I'm assuming it's not a crime in Switzerland, either, simply based on how often it's done.
I am NOT saying this makes it a good idea. The fact that a child is missing shows it wasn't. What I am saying is that over here, MOST people ONLY think it is bad luck that their child was taken, not a sign of bad parenting. They only blame the person who took her, not the parents for leaving her.
Yes, hold people accountable, but could they please be held accountable for what they actually did and not made up stories like swinging and child abuse according to American law - a law that does not apply to this case? So many people want to assume they are even capable of murder, which is a pretty big jump, based on the lack of evidence, and the shabby evidence thus far.
I'm not making excuses for what they did, but two wrongs don't make a right, either. Their poor parenting skills don't leave them legally liable for anything at this point. And their poor parenting skills are no excuse for the nonsense that some people spout here, based on nothing but rumors they WANT to believe, since everyone knows bad mothers should be shot at dawn. Seriously, I have read more than once on this board what a shame it is they can't just go ahead and arrest them now, even lacking any proof they did anything worse than leave their children home alone. Some would argue their child being take was some sort of punishment, but people here seem to not think that is punishment enough.
Some people here talk as if it's such a shame we can't just start throwing people in prison based purely on the hateful sentiments of some who have made their decisions based on how they "feel" after seeing some pictures and thinking about how they don't like the smug looks of the parents.
That doesn't seem just a little legally shaky to you? Again, dumb as it was, it was not a crime for them to leave their children sleeping while they went to dinner. And, much as you don't want to believe it, in a lot of the world, that is considered within the realm of "normal." Not wise, but not unheard of and generally not condemned, either.
As for saying no one but Madeleine is a victim, do you really mean to say that, if your child was missing and now presumed dead, and you knew in your heart this wouldn't be the case if you had only not gone to dinner that night, or had you only gotten a babysitter, you really don't think you'd suffer? Just because Kate Mccann did something stupid doesn't mean she doesn't suffer the pain any mother would feel if she had lost a child this way. Do you really think she sits around thinking, well I totally asked for my kid to be take for me by my own bad choices, so I have no right to feel any pain? Or do you just assume she feels no pain because you've made her such a non-human in your mind?
Your inability to recognize that Kate McCann is suffering just proves to me how hard you work to demonize the woman.
Shrinky