looneymama
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Hey, that's really sweet of you. Maybe I'm just overreacting! Both you and Merc have pointed out that indeed, you were responding to responses, not necessarily lecturing about this particular mom. That's totally fair and I should not jump all over posts so quickly. I think it is clear to me now that the thread just evolved into general discussions.
In my defense, I view people with intellectual or developmental disorders as precious jewels on earth, especially the kids. My dad used to have this theory that people aren't born with souls - they have to earn them. Except people born with those disorders. According to his theory they automatically received a soul at birth, just as pure of heart as can be. I understand his sentiment. I see such kids as among the most vulnerable and feel they need so much protection. And although I haven't walked in their parents' shoes, I have a pretty vivid imagination and I get this pang in my heart and swooping sensation in my stomach picturing how excruciating it would feel to hear or see someone be cruel or rude or whatever to the child such a parent spends every moment cherishing and worrying about. I'm sensitive about it so I guess I flew to their defense when perhaps there wasn't much of an attack from most!
Thanks for being patient with me, friends.
That is lovely and I would have to agree with your dad. I'm very familiar with that feeling you are talking about. I have a child with special needs. He is the most loving and compassionate person I have met in my entire life. I will never forget the first time I really realized that not everyone sees him like I do. I always knew that, but actually seeing it is different. It's like having your heart ripped out of your chest through the front of your throat. I've lost friends who want nothing to do with him. My relationship with my own brother is strained because he treats my son like an inconvenience and is rude and sarcastic when he talks to him and I wont tolerate that. Last year no matter what, he couldn't do anything right in the eyes of his teacher. It just destroyed his self esteem. Last school year was so emotionally exhausting, I realized that no one is going to fight for him like I will, so we did virtual school this year instead. It is the hardest thing I have ever done, but I will do it every year if that's what I have to do to get him the education he deserves and make sure he knows that I believe in him and will not give up on him.
He has made me a better person. I see beauty in everyone because of him. I will fight until the day I die with everything I am to make sure he knows that he is loved, he is worthy and he belongs...and I would do the same for anyone, because everyone deserves to feel like they matter.....except Jodi Arias....eff that chick. :floorlaugh: