hmmm :waitasec: will I ever read a post where you are NOT opposing, not playing devils advocate ???
I dont know how you get to understand this guy so well at all.
I dont know how you dont get to understand Terry :waitasec:
I sure dont know why you cant see that he has an agenda.
He has cancer and I hope it goes in remission, but he does not have JC and that was his own doing,
as was hiring the attorney he hired which tell it pretty much as it is, where there is love there is no
need for a Gloria barracuda, :no: :no: :no: and not seeing JC is her right and her adult choice.
It Would have been my choice too.
I can see things from both his perspective and from Terry's perspective thank you, you are the one who can't see things from both sides. Ken has regrets and Terry is bitter. I get that.
I do agree with you on one thing, that he has an agenda. That agenda being to meet his daughter. Not such a wierd agenda for a parent IMO, but possibly you think differently about that
This isn't about taking sides, and I'm not going to do that, it is about expecting people to do the right thing.
The person who is going to suffer the most in all of this is Jaycee, because she is being forced to take sides. In the short term she will have to side with her mother because of loyalty and because she is dependent on her, but in the long term, when Ken is gone, not taking the time to meet him when she had the chance is going to be a regret that will haunt her for the rest of her life. And it is not only Ken, in later life her siblings are not going to be too thrilled with her if their father dies with a broken heart because of her. That is just how it is. She may be adult, and can make decisions herself, but IMO she is getting bad advice from the people around her.
Actually, taking the time to find out for herself would probably be the most adult thing she has ever done in her life, but maybe she isn't ready to be an adult yet, I don't know.
Re: Gloria. If Ken wanted her to know how he felt about Jaycee, how would you propose he do it? He can't call her up, she has no known phone number, he can't write to her, he doesn't know her address and if he writes through her attorneys the mail is returned unopened. He doesnt know where she lives so he can't show up at the door. How can she make any reasoned decision, adult or not, if she doesnt talk to him, see him or read his letters? The only other source of information about him and his interest in her is from her mother, and it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure out what Terry probably thinks.
While you may not like Gloria, hiring her was the best thing he could have done. Because of the publicity, even if his attempts to communicate with Jaycee are filtered out by her minders, she will eventually know how he felt. If you read the press release put out by her family, they made great pains to point out all the times he supposedly didn't care, but their beef now is that he now
does care, and they want him to stop doing that. If he didnt care he would have gone "oh well" and gone on with his life, but he isn't doing that. They don't want him in her life at all, and if they can tell her "he never cared, even after you came back" without any contradiction then that is what would happen. That is the great shame and sadness about this story.