Flossie JMO
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So very sad, I pray Issy will be ok. I can't even imagine the struggles faced by Issy and her family over the years.
comparing apples and oranges...imo
she who shall not be named was not scared her child may harm anyone else...
wish you were there to give Kelli respite care when Issy was violent...
Lost indie, your post made me think, was respite care available, and an option?
There is no MSM confirmation that respite care was unavailable. According to Kelli's blog, Issy was in residential treatment for over 11 weeks.
She came home September 3.
Her mother tried to kill her September 3.
And perhaps her mother simply got sick of watching her suffer?
Maybe her mother was trying to kill her because she didn't want her to suffer anymore?
Maybe her mother was trying to kill herself out of shame for failing as a mother?
Out of the guilt that comes from not being able to fix your child and make them better?
There is just so much more that goes into this than most people realize. :twocents:
comparing apples and oranges...imo
she who shall not be named was not scared her child may harm anyone else...
wish you were there to give Kelli respite care when Issy was violent...
I suspect this woman has Münchausen by Proxy after reading all of her blog posts. The way this child has been exploited on that blog is disturbing.
Michigan has one of the most generous programs for help for autistic/disabled children. Many people donated large sums of money for this family, she was working with a treatment center, the child had good support.
On her blog the woman had one of her many personal conflicts with people working on her child's case. She comes across as histrionic and seems to revel in attention.
None of us know what happened, why it happened or what is going to happen.
We *do* know that the authorities denied her bail and have charged her with attempted murder of a child.
The one thing that really made me sick was Kelli in a You Tube video she posted on her blog where you hear a woman hysterically crying for a while and then you hear the child attacking her. NO NORMAL MOTHER DOES THIS TO HER CHILD. Sorry--I have no sympathy for her self-serving tale of woe--I have a 3 children with autism. I would NEVER post videos of them acting out. EVER.
There is medication, therapy, hospitalization, friends, family, etc. etc. etc. available for this woman. I have rarely seen a family with so much outside help and $$$$. For her to try to kill her child because she is disabled is NOT EVER THE OPTION.
I'm also curious why the woman was out of the hospital so quickly while the child was unresponsive for quite a while--she also left a strange message for her husband & that prompted him to contact authorities. Perhaps she just wanted the child to die.
It is absolutely ridiculous to start advocating eugenics--the Nazis had no use for "damaged" human beings, so they "euthanized' them. This child is a human being who has been used and exploited by a sick mother.
JMO
MsFacetious: I was just jumping off your post--I'm not directing anything I said towards you
I would agree with your post completely, if it weren't for the part about no normal person posting a video of their child acting out. Not true. My 7 year old son has been diagnosed with pediatric onset schizophrenia. There are multiple videos of his acting out, discussing his command hallucinations, and describing what happens when he has a break with reality. Some of them are kept private, however, others are publicly available on my Facebook. Why? Because he's my son, and that is my life, and also in our case, because the best way to make people understand that his psychosis is not always violent (or alternatively, how violent it can be) is to show them. Just because it's not something that you would do does not mean that it is abnormal or exploitative.
That said, she had no right to try to kill her child, no matter how deluded her thinking is. One thing that you learn while raising a special needs kid is
how you control your own actions and reactions to them. It is heavily stressed in every form of therapy and family intervention, as I'm sure you know. She would have been able to identify the flaws and dangerous turn to her thinking and she chose to not do anything about it, except try to kill herself and the child. From her own blog, she says that she felt she was the screwup that got her daughter removed from the school. That's a "She's better off without me" type of thinking. Not a "I need to protect her by removing her from this cruel, cruel world" type of thinking.
Thanks for your post. I want to clarify what I meant about the video posting--I was disturbed by the mother's strange crying & whining that she did for the majority of the video--near the end her daughter attacks her. She wrote that in the video, she had already been attacked and she was trying to clean up the diet coke & water that her daughter threw around the kitchen--she for some reason made a video of her wailing and cleaning up the mess.
It came off as styling the mother as the victim and the daughter as some monster.
I have special needs kids, too. I know that when my son is banging his head or pulling someone's hair, the last thing I do is perpetuate a high stress scene--like that mother did with her dramatic wailing.
I'm sorry about your child--that is a tough diagnosis & you have my thoughts and prayers for strength! I can relate somewhat to your situation--we go through medications & therapies that seem to always need tweaking with my 5 yo son. Schizophrenia is a heart-wrenching thing to have to live with for you as a mother.
I read lots of blogs, and I'm not saying that posting videos aimed to illustrate a behavior you're struggling with is in any way wrong or exploitative. I found that Kelli's posting WERE disturbing in that they were intended to illicit sympathy and attention for HER and not in a healthy way.
Her daughter is 14 and has friends her age--I can't imagine having all those videos and commentary (especially the ridiculous pic of Kelli in the hospital bed) out there for everyone to read. It has a feel of "Look at ME!"
The whole tone of her blog is HER struggle--not her daughter's. She's obsessed with how it affects HER--and this last episode where she aggressively verbally attacked a woman at her daughter's school because they weren't doing things the mother's way is a great example of what I'm talking about--she needs to be in control, the center of attention.
I'd love to read your blog, BTW, if you want to share it! You can PM me if you want to share it.
AH, okay, that makes a lot more sense. I know that with my son, he is very easily influenced by noises. If i were ever to have a breakdown in front of him, he would feed off that, and of course, go over the edge into psychosis. He exhibits some autistic traits, and that was one of his former diagnoses. Any type of emotional outburst is just a catalyst for his behavior, and I know that is pretty much a standing rule, you don't allow the child to feed off of your lack of control. I've been reading her blog and I agree that it is very oriented towards herself and her husband. A definite air of "Look at me, this is so hard for me, why don't we all feel sorry for me." That type of thing is always frightening for me, as a mother of a mentally ill child. I have met other parents like that, and typically, they are the ones that spend more time trying to get the child institutionalized, and "out of their hair" than they do trying to get the child appropriate treatment in the home setting. For example, the "back to school" picture. If she puts it on her blog that she is literally counting down the days until school starts, then I am sure that that impatience and desperation to rid herself of "the problem" is obvious to Issy as well.
A sad situation for the child.
sorry you weren't there to take "it"....
kind of a cold way to refer to a child...imo
Several things I am curious about when it comes to this case.
1. How on earth did "mom" have so much free time on her hands to not only blog about her own life but to search, find and post ALL of the pics she uses in her blog? One would think that with a child that is as "hard to handle" as she claims Issy is that she would have next to no free time.
2. How on earth did "mom" snap or break from the stress of it all when she attempted to kill Issy the day she returned home from a 6 month facility? And did mom really attempt to kill herself when she left a message for her husband as to her plans to do something horrible?
I'm sorry but I have no sympathy for "mom". None. There is no excuse for what she did. I do however feel great sympathy for not only Issy but her other two siblings as well. Perhaps now they will be better off though without "mom" in the picture. Hopefully the kids can heal from this.
MOO