summergirl1
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After reading the Facebook page you set up, it confirmed what I was already tending to think, that it certainly seems likely that Kumar may well have been responsible for her disapearence, given how he was known to treat her, and the fact that the vast majority of disapearences where the partner or wife supposedly goes to run an errand and never comes back are actually a cover up for a murder by the husband/partner, etc. That story and variations of it occurs again and again. I read that you posted he has passed away.
Or perhaps as he was involved in drug crime, her death had something to with his involvement in that, and maybe wasn't from him or intentional on his part. Or perhaps even known to him.
What happened with her father's wedding is interesting. It's too bad that isn't clearer. It sounds like it disappointed her though. Maybe it set Kumar off and that among other things led to her death. It's interesting her disapearence and the issues with her father's wedding happened close together. It is always possible she did commit suicide, but I don't get that feeling from the letter much, at least without knowing more about what else was going in her life or more about her.
It's possible she did voluntarily leave, but leaving your infant son is pretty drastic, especially when it doesn't sound like your grandfather was the kind of person to be a responsible parent. Her SS number should be run though just to see if it has been dormant all these years. She could have gotten another one and used another name, of course. It would be interesting to know how much money and what exactly she supposedly took with her when she went to run the errand. But as that was never looked into at the time, I'm sure it's unknowable now.
I think her remains are likely somewhere in NJ or a nearby state. Not all unidentified remains have DNA on file, but those that do will be ruled out once LE has your DNA. If she did start a new life and had any other children who have tested with genetic genealogy then having your DNA in more databases may find them. My feeling is she's a Doe somewhere though, maybe found, and maybe not.
Or perhaps as he was involved in drug crime, her death had something to with his involvement in that, and maybe wasn't from him or intentional on his part. Or perhaps even known to him.
What happened with her father's wedding is interesting. It's too bad that isn't clearer. It sounds like it disappointed her though. Maybe it set Kumar off and that among other things led to her death. It's interesting her disapearence and the issues with her father's wedding happened close together. It is always possible she did commit suicide, but I don't get that feeling from the letter much, at least without knowing more about what else was going in her life or more about her.
It's possible she did voluntarily leave, but leaving your infant son is pretty drastic, especially when it doesn't sound like your grandfather was the kind of person to be a responsible parent. Her SS number should be run though just to see if it has been dormant all these years. She could have gotten another one and used another name, of course. It would be interesting to know how much money and what exactly she supposedly took with her when she went to run the errand. But as that was never looked into at the time, I'm sure it's unknowable now.
I think her remains are likely somewhere in NJ or a nearby state. Not all unidentified remains have DNA on file, but those that do will be ruled out once LE has your DNA. If she did start a new life and had any other children who have tested with genetic genealogy then having your DNA in more databases may find them. My feeling is she's a Doe somewhere though, maybe found, and maybe not.