Not to even go through the normal stages of grief regarding the murder of your child? No righteous anger? not even for a hot second? The family going mum or talking "forgiveness" on one hand and shoving friends under the bus with the other? Gimme a break.
I don't have a lot of experience with this kind of grief and have never been interested enough in grief as a subject to read books about it. I have heard about the general stages of grief, though. I truly do believe people express/show grief in different ways but I do not believe the stages of grief are skipped.
About 15 years ago the young daughter of a woman I knew was kidnapped, raped and murdered. For three days I had an up close and personal seat at that train wreck and after the girl's body was found, it was little better. The mother was a young single mother who loved to party and showed little caring for her children before the crime. But this woman was so emotionally devastated by the murder she could barely function physically. But over the course of a year she got better, healed, and, I'm sorry to say, went back to her old ways.
(Btw, the murderer/rapist/abductor was a neighbor - bingo on the pattern)
I can't help but compare the Ramseys to this young woman. Same loss, yet in no way in the same ballpark grief-wise. I've always thought the Ramseys were off in what they said, how they said it and even body language. It's bothered me for years; I'm glad we're circling back around to it.
Another thing that has always bothered me is most parents of murdered children would become activists (John Walsh, Marc Klaas, Beth Holloway, Mark Lunsford), set up scholarships or, specifically in JBs case, a special pageant award in her name.
Nothing!!
Sorry. Haha rambling :desert:
