ITA: I can see her fantasizing as a child that perhaps she would be rescued by adoptive parents.
I also appreciate your ability to empathize with EJ, for I believe her childhood was indeed quite tragic and filled with sorrow.
The instability of growing up with addicted parents is traumatic enough. Then insert her into the seriously flawed foster care system that is rife with exploitation, neglect and abuse, both physical and sexual. I have tried to pinpoint the exact number of years she was in the FCS to no avail, but five different placements indicates to me that there were problems. Serious environmental factors that were beyond her control.
The one area where she did have control in her life was in the educational system as evidenced by high achievement that culminated in a full paid scholarship to college.
When she gets to college, I believe she was overwhelmed by the social pressures (other than the academic pressures) due to maladaptive coping skills and she left after just two weeks.
Her pregnancy was probably accidental, and, I agree she realized that she was not cut out to be a parent. When she perceived she was betrayed by the most stable person in her life (though I believe her relationship with LM was quite volatile/passionate), she decided to take matters into her own hands and take control back. Control over little Gabriel's destiny.
And here is where I see a fork in the road.
I think her silence is a good indicator of the path she took if my interpretation is on target. I am leaning toward the silence meaning that she wants Gabriel to live the fantasy that little EJ could only dream of.
Rather than going through each point, I'll just say that I agree. I think that she is rewriting her own history through Gabriel. She feels that she wasn't loved, so she tries to counter her own lack of love for her child by "choosing" good loving parents. Is it likely that she would believe random strangers are good and loving? To me, the answer is yes, because she has no frame of reference for real parental love.
I think that she kept Gabriel as long as she did because he was, at first, everything she needed. he gave her something to love, something to love her, a bond to hold onto Logan, and that ever elusive chance to "do things over." The problem likely arose when Gabe started to show signs of independence, such as rolling over and becoming mobile, she feared that with that independence would come the loss of the unconditional love, since she likely feels that those that know her can't love her. Fundamentally flawed, as it were. (That is simply from experience. When you move through the foster system, they have a habit of moving you when you really start to band, not on purpose, it just happens a lot of the time, leading to that damaged goods feeling.) She may have realized that her feelings for him were not what a mother was supposed to feel, and after she decided that she didn't want to have something to use as leverage against Logan, she had no more need for him. The only thing that she could hold onto was the chance to do it over. And the only way that she could do that was to give him a family that would keep him forever.
I don't believe that she has dual personality or that she is a sociopath, but I am leaning towards a dissociative disorder, less severe than both a psychotic break or MPD. If it hurts, she turns off. (Once again, common with foster kids and children of addicts.) She would talk if this were painful for her, but it's not...and there is no way to make it painful, except MAYBE if they were to tell her they found him and he is in state care...that could make her snap, take away her ace in the hole.
IM-nonprofessional-O.