As an adoptive mother of 6 adopted and 2 biological, I could not disagree more! I have spent months in both Africa and India and you can ask any of my 6 kids who are from both countries some even adopted as teens what they think.
The reason that none of my children would not do well dropped off in Ethiopia is because they have a family here!! If they did not, then a loving family in Ethiopia would be preferable to no family here in the states! There are approx. 40 million orphans around the world and while a biological or adoptive family in their country is absolutely the best and most desired circumstance it is not always possible or available. I took great care to make sure that my children were not only "true orphans." In addition, I only used orphanages that went to great care to find families in that particular country and had proof of such action. In fact, in India children have to wait a considerable amount of time just to make sure that all possibilities have been exhausted before being placed for international adoption. Beyond that, those children if not adopted face a bleak life and will likely die at a very early age. It is easy for us to read a few bad stories or situations and sit in our comfy HUGE western homes with families to love us, food to eat, clothes to wear and say, "nope, those kids are better off in their countries." Starving, on the streets with the only hope being in the sex slave trade for girls especially in India and African countries?? THAT is NOT what is best!!!! There are thousands of legitimate adoptions that happen every year that have wonderful outcomes. We just don't hear about them, because they are not sensational stories!! Bottom line: EVERY child deserves a home and sometimes that is outside of their birth country! More laws and restrictions in our country will help to make children safer and to stop or curb abuse, but abuse happens in every country to both adopted and bio kids and will likely always exist as it always has. International adoption is not going to stop if Americans are upset or try to stop it, because we are not the only country that participates or adopts internationally (many Europeans countries adopt from Asia, Africa, China and Eastern Europe) and we can't stop it, nor should we, but we can help to make it better! An orphanage in a country is not preferable to a family and neither a starving dead child is preferable to an adopted one and THAT is the reality. Orphans can deal with a little culture shock. That is the least of their problems and in your mind you are comparing them to our privileged spoiled American kids who no very little about the reality of life in a third world country. My kids have always been extremely grateful and extremely happy to have a family!!
It is a simple and selfish answer to "look the other way", sentence children to a life without a family and with no hope. Most never ever have to look it in the face but we are comfortable in our safe little lives and are not comfortable with the very few bad stories that are out there. Stopping adoption internationally is another aspect of blame that will not help or stop this problem. imo
jfyi: When we adopted, we saw ourselves as becoming African and Indian and we embraced those cultures and countries as if we ourselves had been born to them. We continue to visit those countries, volunteer in them and make our home look, sound, smell and seem like they are Indian and African. Our children know that we not only do we love them, we love their country and their people and make every attempt to connect with their culture because it is forever a part of our family. There are many people from every country around the world that live in the United States and there are many opportunities to connect our children to those countries. We do not need to live in a vacuum and our children need not feel isolated from people from their countries. Just so you know, we are not a novelty or the only adoptive family that lives this way, it is just not that interesting to make the headlines, but it did recently land our family on tv on a talk show relating our experience on adoption. Our children are forever grateful to get to have and keep their culture AND have a family and they love "going home" when we volunteer in their country of birth.