What does Kyron mean to you?

[krowdkat]

I just posted happy birthday greetings, and started sobbing. I tend to be someone who feels the pain of others greatly, probably because I've had plenty of my own, but I'm also kind of a prickly old pragmatist.

So me sobbing for someone else's child is hard for me to understand. Shedding a tear, yes. Sobbing?

But it's his birthday.

I don't know if it's just his sweet little smile, his earnestness, Desiree's strength in the face of tremendous grief... This case is... more personal. And maybe partly that my middle son is only a month and a week younger than Kyron, and reminds me of him.

What does this little boy mean to you? What is it that has us so passionately involved? I have to check, every day for news, I pray every night for miracles.

What about you?

I'm feeling a bit like an idiot here, someone else jump in the pool, I keep telling myself I'm not the only one who is so worked up over this little boy.

I'm posting this before I read any posts other than the OP because I want to post my reason w/out incorporating other's thoughts. I will read everyone's posts after, though.

My only son is 24. He was shuffled from home to home since the age of 2. He was the victim of my divorce from his father. We spent his entire childhood in court. He has 4 lawyers and numerous police officers in his family history.

While I don't doubt anyone in his family loves him, some don't love him appropriately by putting his best interest at heart. They are more concerned about winning.

All this resulted in my son becoming a very troubled teen and now struggling as a young adult. He and I are still very close and I talk to him most every day. He is currently incarcerated because of drug addiction issues.


For me, Kryon represents innocence and little boys who don't really have any control over the adults that are making decisions for them. For all intents and purposes, all the important adults in his life seemed to love him. But yet somehow, it seems as if one of those people might be responsible for his disappearnce/demise.

I'm a praying woman. I don't remember praying as much for someone I have never met, Kyron Horman and his parents, other than Laci Peterson and her family.

 

[rnmif]

I think that Kyron represents to me another tragic circumstance of a missing child, and at this point in time anyone's guess as to what happened to this little boy. It represents also the fates of many other children that these forums are dedicated to, very sadly. It represents the fact that adults target these innocent victims, our children, in their despicable and horrendous crimes. In their innocence lies their vulnerability, and demands answers as to Why, what kind of monsters could even contemplate such crimes. It is beyond most people's compassion and sense of decency that these crimes can even occur in our midst.
When we wonder about the possibilities of what might have happened to Kyron, and cry about this beautiful little boy, we also cry for all the other children out there that have been so wrongfully victimised, and their families that are traumatised beyond comprehension also.

You know, that's part of it too. I hide from this stuff, because I too easily put myself in other people's shoes, and I felt like I would not be likely to see a missing child. I signed up to get Amber Alerts, and look for missing kid pictures, but I try not to know too much beyond that.

This case really prodded me in the behind. I'm very ashamed of not being stronger. If we don't fight for these kids, who will?

So... I am grateful for the reminder. I stood at Kyron's wall and told my daughter, if I'm taking one thing away from knowing about him, it's that I want to work to make our world safer for our children. The status quo is NOT acceptable (I'm with you, SacreBleu! I'm so with you).

I really don't want other families to go through this, and I don't want perps to get away with this. It's a good time for us all to take a stand, stiffen up those spines, and figure out what things we can do, big and little, to make our neighborhoods safer. Frankly, I think I need to get out and be more neighborly. That would be a good start. Our hectic pace of life makes it easy to be a hermit. Well, so what. I don't care what's easy, I care what's *right*.

I love reading your replies.... I feel so much, but sometimes it's such a whirlwind of emotion, I have a hard time identifying everything I'm feeling. Thank you.

 

[noonie]

It is all so sad, so very sad. Bless Kyron!!!!!!!!! XOXOXO (hugs and kisses)

 

[rnmif]

(rnmif) I feel you. Move over and I'll get in the pool. Am not a crier. For a while there I thought perhaps something was wrong with me. I have never 'sleuthed' a case in my life. Belonged to WS for 3 months before posting a word. My first words were to Kyron. My first tears in however long, were for Kyron.

Kyron looks like the innocence in every child's eyes. His incredible smile, no vanity of toothless or toothy just that incredible, infectuous smile that begs you to smile with him. When he crinkles his nose, it screams, "Love me!" And we all do... What is it about him, Lord, I wish there was some tangible, blanketed answer. What a guy. He's in my heart, my soul, my prayers, my thoughts and my tears. I don't just cry for him, I weep.

My belief is that every soul has a journey and we are fools to not learn from the soul's who dare to journey where we will never tread. I see you, Kyron. You will not leave my life unaltered. You are imprinted on my heart and the hearts of 1000's of people that have never met you. May we all learn. May we learn to honor life and embrace the ability to love and somewhere thru time may that be in tribute to your life.

You got me big guy.

Where are you angel?

God Bless you, for I know He has counted every hair on your head. May the angels hold you and bring you peace. May you come home to all those that love you.
Trish

LOL, you know, that's part of it too. I feel the need to remember, not to let lives be lost in vain.

People get tired of me harping on our military, our firefighters, our police. Ever since 9/11, I look at things differently. I am shy, but I make myself go say thank you. Not every time, but if I see an opening, I do. I got funny looks in Santa Monica, where cops look at me like, um, yeah, but they get choked up too. Just because it's a cushy part of LA doesn't mean someday, something horrible might not happen, and they will have to make a choice I am grateful I never have to make.

So if thanking them, honoring them, and taking time to remember their lives, and their sacrifices, what does that cost me? If I cry tears and carry a heaviness in my heart. So what. It's nothing compared to what they and their families face.

They have my undying gratitude, and every small way to say thank you that I can find. And maybe some bigger ways, if I can figure those out too.

And the innocent lives lost. Some people consider it macabre. My Grandmother never understands why I want to remember. If not me, who? Someone HAS to remember.

 

[rnmif]

i'm sorry for your pain, grayjay...i hope you will be able to get to a better place as soon as possible...as we all hope for kyron...

Same from me, GrayJay. I've been there. Have hope. If I can take a fractured soul and put together some semblance of a normal life, anyone can.

The first step is deciding that those who harmed you are not allowed to harm you anymore. Exorcise them. Escort that damage out of your life. Refuse to give them that power.

The rest is one step at a time. Choosing to be well, because dammit, if they wanted you broken, the best revenge is to be whole, and immune to their poison.

Hugs!

 

[Billylee]

Personally, Kyron's story just reaffirms my belief that one should never let down their guard. It means that one should be looking over their shoulder. It also means that we should ALL be looking out for one another, instead of looking the other way. That does not mean we should not TRUST, it just means be careful of whom you put trust in.....and that thought should be conveyed to all our children and grandchildren.

On another level, his disappearance, from a school no less, means to me we are lacking BIG TIME in the funds, resources and implementation of keeping yet one more child from disappearing, without a trace, from his family and loved ones. What the heck do we have to do, and how many laws have to passed that have dead children s' names to them before we figure out WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON? and HOW THE HECK DO WE STOP IT?.

I don't want Kyron to be a statistic and I don't want him to be yet another name on a new law. I want him to come home and live a long, full life with children of his own someday.

 

[rnmif]

I'm posting this before I read any posts other than the OP because I want to post my reason w/out incorporating other's thoughts. I will read everyone's posts after, though.

My only son is 24. He was shuffled from home to home since the age of 2. He was the victim of my divorce from his father. We spent his entire childhood in court. He has 4 lawyers and numerous police officers in his family history.

While I don't doubt anyone in his family loves him, some don't love him appropriately by putting his best interest at heart. They are more concerned about winning.

All this resulted in my son becoming a very troubled teen and now struggling as a young adult. He and I are still very close and I talk to him most every day. He is currently incarcerated because of drug addiction issues.


For me, Kryon represents innocence and little boys who don't really have any control over the adults that are making decisions for them. For all intents and purposes, all the important adults in his life seemed to love him. But yet somehow, it seems as if one of those people might be responsible for his disappearnce/demise.

I'm a praying woman. I don't remember praying as much for someone I have never met, Kyron Horman and his parents, other than Laci Peterson and her family.

Oh Kat..... Wow. Big hugs.

I'm so sorry.

My brother who's birthday it is today served time for drug issues. He made it out in short order, reconnected with his high school sweetheart who had a young daughter and was newly divorced. They've been married coming on 20 years, have two more kids, his step-daughter who he raised just married, and her two Dads walked her down the aisle. They go to church, He has run his own business, has worked darn hard for his family. He is respected in his community.

The pain of all that was a powerful motivator to build a better life. I really believe it's the people who believe you can do better, and call you on it, but cheer on even the small steps that help people turn things around.

He has you, Kat. I know he'll be fine. Have faith, and keep being real for him. He needs real more than anything.

Take care of you, Mama bear!

 

[krowdkat]

rnmif, your kind words to me and others are more powerful than you know. Thank you.

 

[rnmif]

Personally, Kyron's story just reaffirms my belief that one should never let down their guard. It means that one should be looking over their shoulder. It also means that we should ALL be looking out for one another, instead of looking the other way. That does not mean we should not TRUST, it just means be careful of whom you put trust in.....and that thought should be conveyed to all our children and grandchildren.

On another level, his disappearance, from a school no less, means to me we are lacking BIG TIME in the funds, resources and implementation of keeping yet one more child from disappearing, without a trace, from his family and loved ones. What the heck do we have to do, and how many laws have to passed that have dead children s' names to them before we figure out WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON? and HOW THE HECK DO WE STOP IT?.

I don't want Kyron to be a statistic and I don't want him to be yet another name on a new law. I want him to come home and live a long, full life with children of his own someday.

Amen, BillyLee, Amen! That's exactly what my daughter and I talked about at the wall. I said dammit, I'm going to do something. She didn't understand what one person could do. I don't either, but trust me, I won't rest until I figure it out!

I may not change the world, but I can figure out how to throw one starfish back into the ocean.

I think there are lessons here, and yes, I think we're all too disconnected. Not just knowing who to trust, but maybe we need to give a little more, until it hurts a little more. Make more casseroles, drive more carpools, have more block parties, babysit for more neighbors.

I think.... I hope to find more ways to give.... I fall into the trap of thinking I'm doing enough, but no. If people are hungry, homeless, hurting, lost.... then by definition, I have not done enough. There is more to do. I can't worry who is doing it, I just need to roll up my sleeves and pitch in.

 

[Kat]

Kyron to me represents every single child that is missing and there are thousands at this time who don't get media coverage of any kind.

It is good he does. It makes us notice the other children too.

I check in on Kyron's threads everyday. He has touched the hearts of many and I pray that he comes home soon. And after he comes home, those with their hearts touched in his community are a little more attentive to other children and other children that are missing. JMHO.

 

[butterfly1978]

I honestly don't know, its the same way with Caylee, Haleigh, Neveah, Patrick, Sandra, Tori, Gabriel, Skylar, and all the others. Each one is so precious as are all children, and I don't understand, and its like I need to understand and I don't. Its that children are so innocent and deserve a safe home, and deserve a chance, when they are born they have everything in front of them they can do whatever they want, be whoever they want. Each was put here for a reason, they deserve to laugh and sing, and play, and grow and smile and love and be loved and protected always, and all to often thats not the case and I don't understand. I want to protect and love each one of these special gifts that God has blessed the world with and everytime another child goes missing it feels like my own and for everyone that is found dead I cry and greive, why I don't know but I do.
When I saw the picture of Kyron in front of his science project he was SO happy, so proud of himself, he is so full of life so full of joy, and to know that shortly after that photo was taken something happened and I want to know what it was, I want to know so that his family will know so that he will have justice, so if he is still here on this earth with enough love and prayers he will be brought back, and if not than his death will not go unnoticed, his life will have meaning and he will be loved.
I'm not sure if I answered the question but maybe I did.

 

[mmmagique]

I know I have stayed up when I should be sleeping, and find myself wide awake at night, almost every night now for months, just trying to picture what happened that morning. I see it all in my head, to a point, and then-nothing. Nothing makes sense. Everyone (kids) was going inside the school, not coming out. So why didn't lots of people notice a child going out at that hour? Even if with a parent, it should have been an unusual sight. Especially when only hours later, eveyone knew a child was missing.

I keep expecting to figure it all out, as though it is somehow up to me. And then I wonder if lots of the "tips" LE is still getting every day are just conclusions or questions or suggestions, from people like me, who think they need to figure this out. I feel certain they are not getting lots of actual, useful tips. But so many people want to "fix" this somehow, so it has a good and quick ending.

FR: I opened car doors at my childrens' school last year for parents dropping off their children. Lots of people are going in and out, both with and without children.

Some people have children they are dropping off at different schools, a parent may come in to say "there's been a death in the family, please can we pick up his work for the next week, we'll be out of town?" a child could be going back to the car to get something (s)he forgot.

It's not unusual to see people (even kids with parents) both coming and going just before school starts. You can probably double or triple that on a day like that...with people wandering hither and yon...(or wherever people wander...*g* :crazy

 

[tragco]

Purposely haven't read the thread before posting, but will grab some tissues and get through it a bit at a time.

I have a son. This case tears me up. Seeing Kyron's pictures of when he was a little boy, pictures getting older, and the last picture of him in front of his science project, so proud.

Kyron's pictures remind me of my own son growing up, having his moments of joy. I look back now and it feels like my little one grew up in the blink of an eye. When he is sleeping I sometimes go into his room, look at him so much older now but still a child, and pictures flash by. The first time I felt him move. The first time I held him. The first time he really belly laughed. The first time he got mad at me. The first time I realized he thought I could do ANYTHING "Mommy turn the sun off, it's hurting my eyes." The trips we took and the memories, riding his first horse, swimming with dolphins, times when I remember wishing I had made a better choice, times when we held each other so tight.

Kyron's pictures flash by like my own memories of my child. Our story is written every day. THe thought of that ENDING. STOPPING. Nothing in the world could be worse.

So Kyron also reminds me of what I have, what I could lose so fast, and that I have to do something to help make these things stop, somehow. It happens too much. Not to this boy, not to him please. I donate. I pray. I do not know him, but I miss him so much. No parent should have to go through this.

Kyron is love. Kyron is hope. Kyron is a precious gift. Kyron, come home.

 

[CarmelEyesD]

I am holding my newborn twin grandsons, and wondering why everyone in the world cannot see how precious our babies and children are, and treat them accordingly.

 

[TopTop]

Every missing child touches my heart.

What really got to me with Kyron's story is that he disappeared into thin air from school. I am not a very trusting person by nature. I hate it when my kids are not with me even if they are with someone I trust 100% (like if they are with their grandparents) but for approximately 180 days a year I put them on a school bus in the morning and don't see them again for approximately 10 hours.

I worry that they might get hurt at school, I worry that someone might pick on them and their feelings will get hurt, I worry that they might be too tired, they might get sick during the day.

I NEVER think that they will just disappear into thin air.

The fact that this happened scares me. That's why I hope that TH is responsible although it freaks me out that a stepmother could do such a thing. If this is a stranger abduction then it could happen again, right?

Then I think how could TH be so criminally intelligent? How could she cover up the crime so well that months later she has not been arrested? Is she an experienced criminal?

I just feel so sad for Kyron. For a child that on paper seemed to be growing up well (unlike some other victims we have seen that grow up surrounded by drugs, criminal activity, bad neighbourhoods etc) how did so many adults fail him?

He should be in school right now, not wherever he is. Someone needs to find this little boy.

 

[SurfieTX]

I've cried so many times for Kyron and his family, I stopped counting. His story is disheartening and confusing on so many levels. Here we have a middle-class, "normal" family in a small town in suburbia. Kyron goes to school like he does any other day.

And then he's gone. And he still is. And no one knows why or how.

It leaves me wondering what has happened to our communities, our families, and our society in general. It has me looking around at my small town wondering if people care about my children and has me reflecting on how much time, effort, and observation I put forth for my fellow citizens. It makes me think about my marriage to a certain extent too.

I hope that when all is said and done, Kyron's disappearance will affect some sort of positive change for children, schools, communities and families.

 

[Aedrys]

Wow, this thread has me tearing up!

The reasons I'm here, watching this case everyday, are threefold. One, I have a stepchild of my own, and we've have difficulties with each other, but we've also come to have a good relationship over time. Still, I'm only the stepparent and get only so much say in her life, which is frustrating. Watching this case reminds me everyday that no matter how bad it may get or how frustrated I get, I will never ever want to harm my stepdaughter or think that making her go away will solve my problems. I know that despite my frustrations, I am a good stepmother and a good person. I don't put myself before my stepdaughter, and that includes her life. I don't understand people who think this way at all. This case reminds me that blood doesn't define who gets to love a child or who gets to take their life away. No one should have that kind of choice over any child, blood related or not.

Another reason I'm here is for good stepmothers everywhere. I really hoped it wasn't Terri in the beginning because I'm a stepmother too. But, sadly, I don't feel that is the case anymore. I have realized that Terri probably did do something bad to Kyron and is not a good stepmother after all but just one that used children to make herself look good to others and convince them she's something she's really not. It just breaks my heart that Kyron's stepmother wasn't as good to him as he deserved. It's crazy, but it's like I'd love to be the stepmother for him that he deserved, to show him and the world that stepmoms, by far and large, are not these evil monsters intent on killing the children not their blood that they are supposed to love and protect, these children that trust them with their lives. To break that trust for selfish, egotistical reasons is beyond wrong; it's evil.

And finally, I'm here because someday I'll have a son (my mother in law has already predicted it and she was dead on about my stepdaughter), and I imagine he'll be a lot like Kyron - loving, sensitive, sweet, smart, introverted, but probably a handful (I was borderline ADHD growing up, so I'm totally expecting the worst temper wise, lol. Of course, my husband is the calm one, so I'm praying our kid gets his temperment). I imagine my son will wear glasses, and like crime shows, and probably frogs. I guess I see my future son in Kyron, and I see kids that look like him where ever I go, and it just makes me stay and keep waiting for him to be found.

What does Kyron mean to me? Kyron is heart. Kyron is every innocent kid that deserves to be loved and nurtured. Kyron's disappearance into thin air is something that shouldn't have happened, that shouldn't happen to any kid. Kyron is light, and love, and happiness, and all things right with the world. His disappearance, his stepmother, all the ugliness and chaos of this case is all what is wrong with the world. And the wrong just can't win here; that's just not right. I just keep praying everyday that he's found, and the people who have done wrong with him pay the price for doing so.

 

[Donjeta]

He's one of my adopted missing children. I can't follow them all for fear of heart breaking but there are a couple that I have been stuck on. Let's call it symbolic of them all, innocent little children who were failed by one or more adults in their lives. He reminds me a lot of one of my children who is exactly his age and Kyron seems to be a lot like him in personality as well.

 

[tlcya]

Kyron represents fear and vulnerability to me. Something about the possibility that I could take my kids to school one morning and go about my business all day - completely unaware that my children were not safe and sound at school but missing - without a trace, only discovering this fact hours later when they don't return from school.

The fear that despite all my protective vigilance over my kids - I may ultimately be helpless to keep them safe.

That is why this case has captured my attention, my prayers, my concern and ultimately - my heart.

 

[BetteDavisEyes]

Kyron to me represents every single child that is missing and there are thousands at this time who don't get media coverage of any kind.

It is good he does. It makes us notice the other children too.

I check in on Kyron's threads everyday. He has touched the hearts of many and I pray that he comes home soon. And after he comes home, those with their hearts touched in his community are a little more attentive to other children and other children that are missing. JMHO.

BBM. I hope this doesn't veer too far OT, but your comments remind me of something that I think about whenever I hear about another missing child:

Have there always been children who "went missing" but we never knew about it because we didn't have the plethora of news sources that we have in this day and age? Are "missing children" a product of our culture or lifestyle and more prevalent now than in earlier years when families were closer, fewer divorces, etc.? I've been a news junkie since high school and don't recall hearing/reading about missing children until the last 20 years or so. Sometimes it's mind-boggling when I think of how frequently we learn about these incidents. jmo