KeyboardCat
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I don't have much experience with the rights or legalities with step-parenthood. There's probably no cookie cutter situation that laws could be made to govern in that area. I can only guess that the situations would vary widely.
But I remember reading a story a long time ago that affected me very much. A woman with children had divorced their father, and for whatever reason she was given sole custody. She remarried but her life went downhill. And when I mean downhill, I mean a roll over crash and burn off a 10,000ft cliff: drug addiction, rage at the children, unstable, suicide attempts, absolute mental cruelty to her children. The stepfather loved the children more than he did himself, gave his life to them and his wife. He knew that for their safety and stability, they needed to be away from his wife. And her kids just wanted remain with their stepdad, whatever the outcome.
Apparently he fought a brave and noble battle in the court system, but he lost. But the mother didn't win either. So custody was given back to the biological father... who was also determined to never have them in the first place due to his own abusive and drug history. And because the dad just liked to be mean, he never allowed any visitation to the stepfather.
I'm sorry for the long story, and that happened many many many years ago. Maybe laws have changed since then, I don't know. But to me that was a tragedy. If a divorce happens in a marriage where step children are involved... if the children are extremely attached and need the step parent... shouldn't the step parent get custody if the bio parent is a danger to themselves and the children? I'm sorry for the questions. I just don't understand our laws at times.
But I remember reading a story a long time ago that affected me very much. A woman with children had divorced their father, and for whatever reason she was given sole custody. She remarried but her life went downhill. And when I mean downhill, I mean a roll over crash and burn off a 10,000ft cliff: drug addiction, rage at the children, unstable, suicide attempts, absolute mental cruelty to her children. The stepfather loved the children more than he did himself, gave his life to them and his wife. He knew that for their safety and stability, they needed to be away from his wife. And her kids just wanted remain with their stepdad, whatever the outcome.
Apparently he fought a brave and noble battle in the court system, but he lost. But the mother didn't win either. So custody was given back to the biological father... who was also determined to never have them in the first place due to his own abusive and drug history. And because the dad just liked to be mean, he never allowed any visitation to the stepfather.
I'm sorry for the long story, and that happened many many many years ago. Maybe laws have changed since then, I don't know. But to me that was a tragedy. If a divorce happens in a marriage where step children are involved... if the children are extremely attached and need the step parent... shouldn't the step parent get custody if the bio parent is a danger to themselves and the children? I'm sorry for the questions. I just don't understand our laws at times.