How to heal from the toxic triangulation of narcissistsReply to quote from @BeckyF "IMO FD was only happy if he was able to manipulate people, especially women. Which means to me he most likely told MT lots of details about the murder of Jennifer. Why would he keep it from her? He needed a cohort. He had learned how to manipulate women. Why did she help him dispose of evidence? Because she was under his control due to her own psychological issues. He had no guilt, IMO, so I don't think he would have spilled his guts just to relieve his guilty conscience. JMO."
CT - Jennifer Dulos, 50, New Canaan, 24 May 2019 *ARRESTS* #44
Agreed. I think Fd manipulated MT with I lost the kids because of you. MOO. Meanwhile Fd slyly pitted MT against JFd every chance he got, putting them in the same house if he could. JFd knew Fd wanted to kill her and JFd even told Family Court how he would do it: through MT, MOO. Fd shrugged his shoulders, explains to AC that women are just crazy about me, I can't help it. Wait for me in the wings. Fd, knowing that MT had a raging jealous streak, proceeded with throwing Momma/Wife from the train/into the lion pit. MT, desperate to keep Fd and the money (through the kids), sensing she was losing Fd but couldn't quite put her finger on why, or to whom (AC was just a shadowy figure, managing money in North Carolina, at that time), crashes her car while out stalking/spying. MT, knocking herself out trying to figure out how to keep Fd, spying on the barbecue in the back yard (Fd saying look at this beautiful life I'm giving up for you, my kids, money, beautiful smart wife), believing that JFd was still a rival for Fd's heart, MOO. Something snapped and the bull charged, just like Fd planned all along. MT figured it out when AC moved in. MT gave up the bike to LE, IMO. Fd was afraid of MT spilling all the beans out of jealous rage, got nervous because LE could place him in New Canaan now. Just speculatin' MOO.
Toxic triangulation - what is it?
This leads us to talk about one of the common ways malignant narcissists demean their victims and retain narcissistic supply: triangulation. Triangulationin the context of narcissistic abuse is the act of bringing another person or a group of people into the dynamic of a relationship or interaction to belittle the victim and make the victim “vie” for the attention of the narcissist.
You have described this perfectly.
ETA: This article is incredible. It's super long but gives a great insight into Malignant N. I encourage everyone interested to read it.
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